how did you deal with it.Especially when the kids' crying , begging to be taken home.My kids in a long term facility--has had emotional-mental & substance abuse problems for so long that our family doc. said this last resort would be big help.I've heard stories of teen-young aldults who came out worse, with worse problems--scarred for life basically.Dunno what to do,'cept support groups for parents& family therapy.HELP now,please!!!!!
2007-06-18 03:54:14 · 7 answers · asked by birdwings_65 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hello
Yes I recently put my daughter into a rehab that actually dealt with kids in crisis whether it be suicide or drugs. It was extremly difficult. But it was the only thing to do to protect her. She was in for drugs and disapearing on weekends. I just could not go another weekend of searching for her and worrying if she was alive.
You need to remind yourself why you put your child there. Your reasons will assure you that you did the right thing. You have to stay strong in front of your child. You will also need to cry and let your emotions surface. You will need to talk to someone you trust maybe your spouse.
Its been a month since she's back home now and she's been doing great. My daughter was the only girl in the facility and the only one there for drugs. She actually thanked me for sending her there she has admitted it helped her a lot.
She also begged not to go and when I called on the phone to talk with her it was very difficult. On visiting they did family therapy and that helped too.
When she came home we went to a counselor and it also helped. She wants to keep seeing him too.
Give it time for your child to adjust . call and visit when you're allowed to. No matter how hard this is on you, remember you are doing this because you love your child.
Stay stong & my prayers are with you. Pray a lot and put it in Gods hands. That too helped me get through it.
2007-06-19 14:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by i8ntsane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had to call the cops and have my teen picked-up and taken to the psyc ward. She just wasn't safe and couldn't even tell you her name, claimed the president was Bugs Bunny!
Turn the tables upside-down. Would you take your child and purpose to commit them to the destructive life they were living?
I know the gut wrenching feelings of parental guilt. It can make you just feel terrible as a parent. When your child was little, if he were out in the street and a big truck was coming down the road, you'd have run and snatched him from the harm......well, today you have snatched him from an equally dangerous harm. You are offering him a new chance to live, you are offering him choices for a future....Now it is up to him to go through the program and his choices are up to him.
You have offered your child a choice to live and not destroy.
I know you're in pain. The support groups will help some. But here are two even better things you can do for yourself. 1) get with another person just by yourself, a minister, a counselor, and meet with this person a number of times so you can explain your feelings. 2) pray and ask someone to pray for you and your child. This is the most calming thing I know.
I know it's a hard place to be. I was there, too.
2007-06-18 05:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Hope 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have, but not to a long term facility. No body knows what we parents go through with our children and the lack of support. Are you asking for suggestions beyond support groups and therapy?
1) Take care of yourself. Do three enjoyable things every day. I like hazelnut coffee in the morning, that's one. I like to do something on the computer, that's two. I like a nice relaxing shower or bath with luxury shower gel, that's three.
2) Tell yourself that what you are doing is the very best you can do for your child.
3) Take a tough love class
4) Volunteer some time to mentor another young person
5) Volunteer some time to help other kids and their families with whatever support organizations are providing your support group
6) Join NAMI http://www.nami.org
2007-06-18 17:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are Parents out there that do, worse case Scenario having the Courts or Law enforcement but a Criminal in a Psychiatric Hospital knowing he or She is an Endanger to the Rest of the Community, those are the people that are most Dangerous to Society the Criminally Insane.
2007-06-18 05:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by tfoley5000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know enough about problems like this that I feel sorry for you. But keep in mind that you had to do something, for your safety and theirs. Children like this can, sometimes will kill you as I'm sure you are aware. The child I'm am aware of likes where they are at and now is doing much better. Will this child ever be a adult who can be in public and able to work? Time will tell. I hope every thing will turn out all right for you and your child. Like I stated, its not they way you want, but sometimes you must as I know there were a lot more problems than you stated.
2007-06-18 04:07:04 · answer #5 · answered by Really ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know that has got to be just as hard on the parents to have to commit their teen child to a psychiatric hospital.
That had to be a last resort, I am sure they have tired everything they could to help their child, to no avail.
We don't know the situation. We can not judge, but what we can do is pray, for her speedy recover, that she is once again reunited back at home with her loving parents, where she belongs.
Have a good day.
2007-06-18 03:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by That one 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have friends that have been admitted and they said there parents thought of them at "camp" or they realized it was for there own good and then they wouldn't worry about it. and the whole coming out worse thing? that's not impossible. b/c my friend who has been admitted (he's fine now) he said he saw some crazy stuff in there and thats why some come out worse
2007-06-18 04:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋