I dont know if this makes any sense....maybe it does. My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 1/2 years. This month was our first time having sex, and he looooved it. Me for one freaked out it being my first tine, and his. Not hes telling me that he wants to wait untill marriage to have sex again and he made a promise to God. I dont know is this weird?? I dont know... i'm not fat but hes been telling me to work out with him and eat better and i dont know if hes just unattracted to me or he really made a promise. He swears its not that hes just trying to be a better person. That just seems kinda weird for a horny 18 year old guy:-/
2007-06-18 03:48:27 · 10 answers · asked by hot_pink_sunsets 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he met a guy at the gym and fell in love. I cannot think of any other reason why an 18 year old guy would not want to continue what was already started and is open for more. You can do better then him.
2007-06-18 03:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by steveheremd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of 18-year old guys want to wait until they are married to have sex. There is nothing wrong with it. In fact, it is actually kind of smart. If he gets you pregnant by accident, then his whole life is going to change. The fact is that you are probably lucky to have found a guy that respects you and is responsible enough to watch out for your well-being. Keep an eye on him. If he is still affectionate towards you and treats you right, then you've got a real keeper. If not, then maybe the "promise to God" thing is just a ruse. He had sex with you and got what he wanted, and soon he will move on. If that is the case, then he is a jerk. You're better off without him. I would not be surprised, however, if you just found a guy that is responsible and thoughtful. If that is the case, if the sex is what is important to you now, then move on, but some day you'll look back and wish you still had this guy.
2007-06-18 10:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll let you in on a secret. Guys love sex and they love girls. Chances are that if you've been together for 2.5 years he's attracted to you and that he's been wishing for the day that the two of you will have sex for a while now. Now you said that it was the first time for the both of you, well have you ever thought that it freaked him out too? Guys may try to play those kinds of things off, but it seems to me that he got scared. Maybe felt that things were getting too serious for how old you are. Also, he could mean what he says, which is a nice thing. NO doubt that there are plenty of horny 18 year olds out there, but maybe waiting for marriage makes more sense to him now. That could change. Your both very young. If I were you, I'd talk to him about it and forget about the whole unattractiveness, it's not cool and only leaves you upset and him frustrated. Trust me, I'm sure he thinks you're hot, but doesn't want to risk the chance things getting out of hand.
Good luck!
2007-06-18 10:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it does sound a little weired.... maybe he couldn't deal with the fact of actually having intercourse was it his firts time ever as well ???
he may have gotten scared if you didn't use protection,that he don't want to end up beeing a daddy already,
or maybe he does find something unatractive about the whole situation with you.....
only talking about it will find an answer.....
2007-06-18 10:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by cg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means he really wants to wait til marriage and he wants to make it even more special for you too so it won't be just undefined it would show how much he loves you
2007-06-18 10:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's weird. You should maybe date other people.
2007-06-18 10:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lobster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a loser, many more fish in the sea. go find one that like sex too.
2007-06-18 10:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by Dylan B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to save you and himself from going to Hell.
2007-06-18 10:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by victorschool1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it is... he is gay... i am sure somthing is wrong.. as like you said it was good and he is a guy.. sex is always needed..
2007-06-18 10:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by fred Flintstone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe he is being sincere, stick with him.
2007-06-18 10:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by sharon b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋