This guy I'm talking to, one day, when I was in the area of the Puerto Rican parade, I called him to tell him how packed it was. He said, "let me find out you are at the parade with another guy". Another time I was with family members & he called me. I told him I was with my family & laughing at something somebody said & he said, "you better be laughing with your family & not some guy". Last nite we had a lil argument, I hung up on him. He called back but I didnt answer because I was mad. He left a msg & said, "You better be glad I'm not near you right now. You have me so vexed - you know what, go ahead & go out with that other guy. Go onto the movies with that other guy". But I wasn't with another guy. I was by myself, at home. I know he talks "mess" sometimes & we joke around but I'm starting to think he really is like that & is the type to jump to conclusions, assume another guy is in the picture, get jealous & become physically abusive.
Do any of you get that impression?
2007-06-18 03:27:18 · 38 answers · asked by Michelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
run forest run....
2007-06-18 03:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Kenny 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
he's got some issues for sure, but i'm not sure it can qualify as physically abusive, but he does threaten and thats not a good sign. it is not a sign of self control or maturity. by the same token if you were mad at him, you could have been more adult and told him on the phone "i'm upset right now and don't want to discuss this anymore. we'll discuss it tomorrow. good night. - then hang up. At least this way you are not just having an immature hissy fit - but are warning him that you are cutting off the conversation
2016-05-18 13:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is actually the typical way an abusive relationship starts is with comments like those. The thing is that he wants to feel like he is in control of you and right now at this stage hes just trying to remind you that hes the only guy that should be in your life. Its a classic form of intimidation used by abusers. Fortunetly your smart enough to have realized what is going on at this stage because soon enough he will be trying to tell you that you can't go out or when you do go out he'll follow you to make sure your not with other guys and eventually it will lead to physical abuse and extreem mental abuse.
I would say get out of this relationship as soon as possible becasue its only going to get worse from this point on.
2007-06-18 03:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by sbbphoto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is obviously how it starts, but will he go the the point of a physical abuse ? I really don't know.
Didyou try to explain him calmly that there is no other guy and how ridiculous it is ? Maybe he just need to be reassured.
If you did already talk to him about this "supposed lover" and he still keep on thinking you're cheating, maybe he's disturbed. Depend on how much you care but i think i would have run away quickly.
2007-06-18 03:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by Pauline 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dis guy seems serious...he is abusive but emotionally "emotional abuse" even domestic violence could be involved i took a class on that and a symptom of the victim of domestic violence was "partner believes their partner is cheating repeatedly...but research it 2 get more info..i tink he could become abusive physically...i tink u tell some1 dat this is happening jus n case if u hav 2 go away from him your friend mom father grandparents cousin someone know....if you feel that this can happen to you its best if you move...if you do move he could insinuate that ur "with ur man" and could harass you...so u kno that paper people get for people to stay away..."i cant tink of the name now" but if u have any questions plz let me now...GOOD LUCK!!! :D
2007-06-18 03:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you need to let him go I dont think he is a physical abusive guy but I do know he is a emotional and mentally abusive which is the worst...he has a problem with himself and he is very insecure that type you dont need to be around he might lock you up in the closet one day lol..
2007-06-18 03:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by Chaz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Run Sweetie Run. So many wonderful men out in world you don't have to put up with this bull-s.h.i.t. So you laugh and joke with each other...Big Frigging Deal ! Think about the STOCKING it sounds like he's doing to you. If things were good between you two you would have NEVER asked this question!
2007-06-18 03:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by Rukeann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That amount of paranoia and how controlling he sounds, it seems like he could easily be the abusive type. Either way it's not a healthy relationship if he's so wigged out 24/7.
2007-06-18 03:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well talking from experience, i believe he has a very low self esteem, and could become violent, first comes the verbal abuse, then emotional, then before you know it you are into physical abuse. but jealousy is very unattractive, that could lead into a lot of arguments between you and him and between him and another guy (friend). you need to either talk to him or get rid of him. also sometimes, when they accuse you, then they are the ones that are cheating or seeing someone else.
2007-06-18 03:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by Ricki F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has some issues that's for sure, insecurity isssues, this people are dangerous and tend to be controlling, and yes they will go to the stage of physical abuse if it gets to that... you don't need that kind of stuff in a relationship, it should be based in trust, not in abuse verbal or physical.
2007-06-18 03:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by back to haunt u 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very jealous and to me it sounds like he dosent trust u if u ask me theres only one thing u can do and that get out if u dont he could become very abusive i would put my money on the fact that he will becaome abusive.
2007-06-18 03:35:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anthony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋