A collegue where I work has recently lost her child in a crash. The child undid the buckle on her car seat, and her mother, who I work with turned to put her hand on her to sit back, and took her eyes off the road for a second or two, and when she turned around, she saw that the traffic had come to a stop and slammed into a car, and her child was ejected through the windscreen and died. How can I help her recover from this tragedy. She blames herself for this. I appreciate any help I can get
2007-06-18 02:59:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Cars & Transportation ➔ Safety
unfortunately I know exactly how this woman feels, I lost my son a year ago tomorrow. it wasn't from a traffic accident, He got sick on fathers day, and died the following morning. Both my wife and I blame ourselves for not seeing it coming, and not being able to prevent it, This is the worst pain one can have, you don't bury your children, they bury you.
the best advise I can give is to be a friend, but give her space and time to grieve. a month or so after the death, if she hasn't started seeing a therapist, suggest it. it helped me. but the pain and guilt will never go away.
2007-06-18 15:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by silver lining 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm saddened by this loss. Safety seats have some new locks developed by Mom's out of just these kind of tragedy's. If it was me I would let her know you are available at any hour to listen and weep with. You can bring her comfort food. As women we forget to care for ourselves often when we grieve. Take her to the grave site with flowers and be a shoulder she can lean on. Have your fellow workers join in and support a group effort. There are many books out on the loss of a child. Get one, browse it first and get the info u can do from professionals. Is there a church group involved? A minister is often a good source of pain relief. What are her interests? Is there anything u can think of to give her a moment away from the horrible images? She may need a Doctor and medication with counseling to get past the initial trauma. Stay involved as much as she will let you. Back away when asked. Always watch for signs of suicide and self injury. God bless. I pray you find a way to ease her burden. Take care.
2007-06-18 03:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mele Kai 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my,had almost the same thing happen to a friend of mine a month ago,but the child survived and 5 other people died including the babys mother,who was the drivers daughter.bad things happen with bad choices made. it is something the driver will have to learn to live with,although she will never really get over it. if you get any good advice,plz e-mail me at gdm1454@yahoo.ca,as i dont know how to handle this myself. take care and good luck.
2007-06-18 08:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an employee assistance program at every job. Its a free program for counselling. Encourage them to look into this program. If they refuse and you are a praying person then pray for this person constantly and give them encouraging words when you can. Just be there for that person as best you can. Hope this helps. I am sorry for your friend's loss.
2007-06-18 09:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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That would be very difficult for me. Perhaps you could talk to someone who is in a position which requires them to console grieving people , such as ministers, or even a policeman if you know such people.
2007-06-18 03:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by PH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them your sorry for the loss, go to the funeral, then give 'em a simple gift of sinserness.
2007-06-18 03:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by Da' Mattster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just a sympathy card andbe there when she needs comfort
2007-06-18 03:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by dumplingmuffin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋