what do you think , once a cheater always a cheater ? ladies? guys?

Question

what you yall think?

Answer 1

No, not necessarily. A lot depends on the people involved, and why the cheater strayed in the first place. Also, a lot depends on how (or, IF) the cheater is given a second chance, and under what circumstances and conditions.

Cheating is definitely a mistake (which all people make mistakes), but not necessarily a habit.

Answer 2

It depends on the context, the individual and the relationship. I think, well I know, there are some people who simply cannot stay monogamous. I have a friend whom I have known for many years and who always cheated on his girlfriends. He and I talked about cheating, blah blah blah. Bottom line, even though he is an incredible, creative, and intelligent person, he will never change as far as this is concerned. Some people are like that and if you get in a relationship with one of them, you must know not to expect anything to change. the other day, I saw a show on television on women who were speaking about their failed marriages. They had imagined that once married, their husbands (who by the way some had been sincere and admitted they could not stay monogamous or faithful to them) would become entirely faithful to them. Wrong!!!! All divorced because, of course, they felt they had been let down. You can't expect people to change. that is a mistake we all make. People change because they want to change. Not because we are going to change them.

The other type of cheaters is very different in that sometimes, the extra-marital affair is a sign of the person's wanting out of the relationship. Someone who may not have the "guts" to tell to the other one that they want out, will think nothing better to do than having an affair, hoping in a way (not consciously) to get caught, or if not to get caught, to finally gain the courage to leave.

Mistakes do happen. It does happen where someone will have an affair because he/she was very drunk, he/she had a big fight with their spouse, .... Even though it is never pleasant to find out about those "slips," I don't think they are a big deal if they do not happen often of course and if the "guilty" one obviously handles the "faux pas" with elegance and respect. Of course, many are not going to agree with me on that one. And I used to feel like them before. But honestly, after seeing so many couples breaking up because of just that, cheating, I question the idea of "complete monogamy." Not that I am all for swinging or things like that. No way, i think it's kind of gross actually. But in the life of a couple, there might be one or two instances where well mistakes were made and we must be more forgiving in order to save an otherwise beautiful love story.

I am certain there are many more reasons why people cheat. To answer your question, once a cheater always a cheater? not necessarily. Again it is all about the context and the relationship.

Answer 3

it's not true because of three things: 1) People learn from their mistakes, 2) they are not always cheaters to begin with, nor are perceived cheaters cheating, it's pure conjecture. 3) history does not always repeat itself nor repeat itself with the same person

What it is is a "trust" issue (from within the new spouse, new friend, themself not being able to trust anyone) and is not a "history" issue. It happens in life, in marriages, or with family issues the same way, regarding trust. Some people are always pushing the "prove it" issue to solve this within their own mind because they can't accept trust. The "pro vs con issue" are both popular issues with people's comments on both sides, and determination which can never be made because there is no "one size fits all".

Some of the responders are correct when they say this issue has to be taken "within context". If a person cheats on someone there is a reason they are cheating and may do it to the same person again unless the problem is solved. The problem may be theirs or something their partner is doing that causes them to be dissatisfied. Now that doesn't mean they will cheat on their next relationship.

Answer 4

Depends. But in general, once a cheater always a cheater IN THAT RELATIONSHIP.

I believe in second chances. If the infidelity was a one time thing (not an on going affair) and he shows proper regret and contrition then I could forgive (not forget) one time. It would be a long and difficult road to a better stronger relationship. Not only on his part but on mine. We would both have to change for the better.

Frankly, most dating scenarios aren't worth dealing with infidelity.

Answer 5

People cheat for many different reasons. It doesn't make them all bad. And NO, once a cheater always a cheater does not apply. If you keep him interested, he won't stray.

Answer 6

No! That is not true.There is a lesson to be learned by the cheater.Once the cheater realizes the consequenses of cheating,and how negative it is on there life they will stop,but until they figure that out they will continue to cheat.Its all about growing up.

Answer 7

Yes, once a cheater always a cheater..

Answer 8

I'd say in cases where he/she has cheated more than ONCE- yes! If it was only once, truly an accident, fine...but once that SECOND affair comes up...ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER~!!

Answer 9

For the most part yes. Once a cheat always a cheat. It goes back to the old saying "Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me."
Some people are the exception and unfortunately now a days they are few and far between.

Answer 10

I'd say yes (at the moment) - coming from a person inclined to cheating. But here's the fun part: What makes someone a cheater? - The fact that he/she was being cheated on! Think of cheating as a very, very, I mean VERY big boomerang that flies at high speeds: first it hits you, then you lift it up, you throw it and it hits your new girlfriend. Then she lifts it up, and throws it at her new bf, who will throw it at his future girl etc, etc, etc...