That headline was just an attention getter. When Christians marry, it is supposed to be for life, no matter what, right? What if they lose their love for each other? Doesn't that lessen the meaning of marriage? I don't know, tell me what you think.
2007-06-18 01:57:36 · 9 answers · asked by danashelchan 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Not as long as there's divorce court. Getting married in a religious ritual has little real influence on whether the marriage lasts or not. My brother was married in a catholic church to a nice catholic girl -- he wasn't even catholic but CONVERTED to catholicism before they got married just so they could get married in a catholic church -- and they ended up getting divorced before their 2nd anniversary. They even went through the whole "preparation for marriage" counseling beforehand -- it made no difference.
Now he's married to a nice jewish girl -- and they've been for nearly 20 years.
2007-06-18 02:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by Resident Heretic 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All the more reason to ensure you are marrying the right person by getting to know each other on a deep level. Make sure you are both committed to the idea of marriage and make sure you are both willing to be faithful to each other no matter what happens. Make sure you are both committed to the hard work that keeping your marriage good will take.
Marriage is not easy and its not meant to be. However, the benefits of being married far outway the hard times being married can bring.
So, to answer your question, yes, marriage is for life as a Christian. The only allowable divorce is when one spouse has cheated on the other according to the scriptures.
2007-06-18 02:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by TheSafetyMan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Christian and I don't have a problem with the idea of divorce in general, in certain circumstances. I think it happens all too often but I think that's because people get married all too often.
I don't make it a secret that I'm not a big fan of the idea of marriage. The problem is that in our culture we say things such as "What if they lose their love for each other?" meaning that we interpret love as that feeling that can be so fleeting instead of a commitment. I fully believe that love is a choice we make and if married we should wake up each day determined to make that choice, and there's no such thing as falling out of love. If there is, maybe you weren't in love in the first place.
I do support divorce, however, if the spouse becomes abusive or something like that. I know all too well that sometimes people just change, and in that case it's fine. But largely the problem of divorce in our culture is due to how people look at marriage and love.
2007-06-18 02:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it interesting that in the christian marriage vows it says, "What god has brought together let no man put apart"? Isn't amazing that, at every religious wedding, the religious leader and all the congregation pray for the marriage, and that the bible says in several places that prayers will be answered (see my sources below for these texts)?
Isn't it interesting that the divorce rate amongst christians and atheists is the same? If god truly sanctioned the marriages, and if prays were answered like the bible says, no christians would ever divorce. That's the christian's own "holy" book's words. Yet it doesn't happen. Don't give me rubbish about free will, temptation, man not being full of grace or whatever. The christian book and the words of the marriage ceremony combine to prove god either does not exist, or isn't the god you thought he was, with the smart money being on his being an imaginary creature.
2007-06-18 02:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Nodality 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you lose the initial attraction, rekindle the love. Love does not come easy; it is something you have to work at.
The same is true for any monogamous relationship. Religion has nothing to do with it.
2007-06-18 02:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by Kharm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep.
A friend of mine who is a devout christian once told me; I met my soulmate a little while ago. It's a crying shame that I met her 5 years after I married my wife.
Honestly, what good is a religion that forces you to suffer in a relationship that you hate?
2007-06-18 02:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by Yoda Green 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Jesus said that the only reason for getting a divorce is for unfaithfulness by one of the parties.
I don't think there is such a thing as losing your love for someone. If you lose your love, it was never really there.
2007-06-18 02:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by jaherrera3499@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PROTESTANTS LIKE AMERICANS OR ANGLICAS CAN TAKE DIVORCES BUT CATOLICS DON'T
SO PROTESTANS ARE DARK-SIDED
2007-06-18 02:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by Kwon BoA 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
abortion is murder
divorce is the marriage equivalent.
2007-06-18 02:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by Yahoo admins are virgins 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋