he wants to elope?

Question

He wants to get married right away. The reason is that i wanted to wait until next summer to even start planning the wedding (this is when i graduate from school). When i told him this he withdrew and wouldn't talk to me about it, now he wants us to elope and i don't want to do this. Why is he acting like we need to get married now?

Answer 1

Why does he want to get married right away?

You are right in wanting to wait till after you graduate, that is very smart to do.

Sit him down and talk to him about it, find out why he doesn't want to wait.

If he doesn't want to talk about it, rethink the relationship. Communicating is #1 on the list of important items and if he can't talk to you about his reasons then you've got to wonder what else he is not telling you.

Answer 2

Don't get married, you're not ready! Your boyfriend is way too immature. Look at the way he withdrew from you and refused to talk to you when you were trying to explain your feelings. He just wanted his own way. You're smart by waiting until you graduate. It costs alot of money to get married and there's alot of planning involved. You deserve to have a wonderful wedding in a church with a beautiful dress, bridesmaids, bridal shower, celebration with family and friends. Why should you run off and hide from other people like you're embarrased. There's something wrong with this dude! Be careful and don't rush.

Answer 3

Try and ask him what marriage means to him.
It could just be that he doesn't want to wait for you to be his wife!

But you also have to tell him what marriage means to you.
If it's a public declaration of your love, the eloping isn't going to satisfy your needs. While you need to respect his opinions, he needs to understand that many women have been planning their wedding since they were little girls, and it would be unfair of him to take that away from you.

Try to compromise. Perhaps a destination wedding? Or move the date forward, if you don't mind.

Answer 4

wow! this can mean anything.either he is controlling and wants you to be his or he doesnt want to live without you and is afraid that if you guys wait it wont happen.

sit down with him and ask him why he wants to marry so fast and talk about your feelings. a marriage wont work if its one sided and he has to take your feelings into consideration too.

i think eloping is nice, because its beautiful and cheaper and your families can go with you.

good luck and try to work it out

Answer 5

please stick to your guns.....if you need to graduate in the summer.....don't get married , Marriage needs to come when all is planned for each....If you think about it ....you are the one who will feel bad the rest of your life , when you need a resume and it will read....In complete education..... and a job opening will not be easy ....always the lowest paid and the last for advancement , tenure etc......that is bad when you will need to juggle , married life, children and a job.....if you he gets angry , maybe he isn't thinking of you ,,,,he might not be worth marrying.....marriage is on mutual trust and compatability.....on what does he want to found your married life..that he ruined your chance for a profession....good luck , be strong but think of how your life should look and where you are heading.... frieda

Answer 6

I couldn't tell you why he's acting that way...but you need to talk asap...if he's trying to force you to get married his way and doesn't care about how you feel, then you'll see this situation over and over again in your marriage. Maybe he just wants to be able to call you his wife soon...talk to him and maybe he can shed some light on it.

Answer 7

Who knows. If he can't talk about it, it might be a bad idea. Who knows what else he is hiding? Could be huge debts.

Answer 8

Is he pregnant?