THOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY.Why is this a commandment from God?How come Christians even Pastors?

Question

often lose the battle,when it comes down to obeying this law..First befour you judge me to harshly,I did not expect this,or wish for this,and feel as though I have no control at all with the thoughts that are in my head,,and as a christian woman that thought at one time I was indeed saved by the blood of christ,now I wonder ,because I'am not as strong as what some might be if given the chance to do what I would like to do.I'am very confused as to why God allowed me to get in a situation as to where these thoughts were able to come about,knowing how vulnerable my marriage is.Any insight to these questions will be most appreciated.Here is my story, my husband of 11 years has made love to me only twice in a year 1/2,because of a lack of desire between the both of us, we still love each other,and want to grow old with each other.Recently me and my pastor were doing a church thing absent of all the other church members,and ever since then in short every time I see my pastor,I WANT HIM HELP

Answer 1

the answer is you are a human being
and god doesnot exist

Answer 2

Women, you are indeed in a very confused situation. And whenever you are confuse, you must not make decision. That is why Paul says he die daily. As long as you long for the worldly thing then you are subjected to it's law. When you are subjected to the worldly law that means it is the law of the ruler of this world.You are still living as though you are the same person before you are a christian or you were by birth a christian . That is the main problem many Christian is facing .I'm not implying that you are not a true christian. Since you say "pastor" that means you are a born again christian [as I'm given to understand] To be born again means a completely new person with a new spirit. Jesus said that No man putteth new wine in an old bottle, lest it will burst. You have to leave the old self and make room for the new self. Be transform. Whatever dreams you are holding , you have to leave behind, as though you are dead. You have to take up the cross or you will still be the same old person although you are in Christ. Read in between line what I say for I am revealing you the secrets of the Holy kingdom which many spiritual people are seeking. Today the secrets is given freely to the children of God which is in Christ. Don't fight cause you are already dead in Christ. Call out to Him it is his battle. Since you ask help, that means there is a conviction in your heart so let the new you take over. You are Blessed Child.

Answer 3

Understand that your husband has the responsibility of being intimate with you. It's not something he can do when he chooses to, it's part of his marriage contract with you. If he is not fulfilling this responsibility, you are perfectly with your rights to divorce him. If, on the other hand, you have agreed to stay with him and accept the "lack of desire" between you, that's your choice. Under no circumstances does this mean you should lust after your pastor. If you cannot contain yourself, join another church.

God did not allow you to get into this situation. YOU have allowed your husband to continue his behavior, and YOU have allowed yourself to stay in an unhappy marriage. Now YOU need to start acting like and adult and deal with your problems. How is your husband's health. Is there some medical reason why he's refusing sex? Is it possible that you've gotten overweight, or that you're not keeping yourself up? What is the real reason he's not responding to you sexually? Be woman enough to start dealing with this problem and stop acting like a school girl.

Answer 4

The devil uses our vulnerability against us. He knows our weaknesses, even if we don't. I yielded to temptation and had s*x with a woman other than my wife. It didn't happen right away, but gradually. My wife and I were not getting along, to the point of her calling me names, and disrespecting me in front of our kids. Well, just as that was happening, I met a young lady at my job who thought I could do no wrong. She was kind, and admired me. (Wasn't that convenient and timely?) Well, over the course of several months, we started confiding in each other about our spouses. Once that happened, it was already a done deal. The sexual part of the realtionship soon followed. There's no harm in being vulnerable. The harm comes when we start seeing everything we want in someone else. Continue to resist. The road back from adultery is much more painful than you could ever imagine. The road to it is sooooo smooth. Detach yourself now. It may sting a little. But that temporary discomfort will be worth it compared to the long-term suffering you would experience from being found unfaithful.

Answer 5

Why do people break commandments? Because they are human.

But your question is of course rhetorical. Your real question is whether you should have sex with your pastor. Since you know the answer to that, at least according to the dictates of your church, what exactly do you want from us?

Perhaps you need to deal with this in a more serious way than Yahoo Answers.

Answer 6

God never said that you would not be tempted, even he was tempted by satan!! Does that mean that because you feel the way you do, you must act on those feelings? There is no temptation that could come upon you, that God cannot help you to overcome. Being tempted is not the sin, yielding to that temptation is. Satan is very sharp when it comes to entering into our thoughts. Whatever things are true, pure, loving, are the things that we are to think on. God is your strength, he is your stronghold and he will not leave you or forsake you!

Answer 7

God gave us the commandments for our protection and well-being. He didn't do it to make us miserable. Since the days of the apple picked from the tree of knowledge was consumed, we have been provided with free-will. We have to choose to turn from sin, turn towards God. If we are being tempted, it is by the fallen angel, Satan. Satan knows our weaknesses. Satan would love to take you, a fine church going lady and most of all Satan would love to take a church leader along with you. You have free-will. You are choosing to not enjoy your God-given feelings that sexual relations provide in a marriage, and that leaves you vulnerable to sin. With practice and meaningful (on your knees) prayer, you can ask for help from God. If the pastor is thus far unaware of your lustful heart, don't take him with you by tempting him with your lust. There are plenty of male appendages hanging around that are not walking with God who could provide the stud service you seek.

Answer 8

indeed, of the 7 deadly sins, lust is probably the most difficult to overcome. first, since we are base creatures,it's not surprising that our sex drive is as strong as animals' sex drive, but we do see examples of animals that have only one mate for life, so if they can do it, so can we. second,our superior intelligence makes us realize the consequences of infidelity, so we know we have to control our carnal desires. we also know that these waves of lust are due to chemical levels in our bodies, and are not necessarily matched by the hormone levels of our husbands, or our potential lover, so making overtures to someone has the potential of being rejected.third, this peak of hormones will pass, and you'll be glad you resisted the urge and that you still have your husband's love. Now, as to why God allows this temptation to dwell in us, i don't think we'll understand this until we get to paradise, but He does warn us with that commandment that violation would destroy marriage and the chance of growing old together. best wishes, and pray for strength and resolve.

Answer 9

All rules are made to be broken. Even If there is know one there to deal a punishment the moment or moments before the rule is broken.

Answer 10

Put your energy into your marriage. Sin usually wins because people are not where they are supposed to be.

Answer 11

don't get confused.
human as they are, nobody is immuned to temptations to sin.
what matters is the living relationship with God and to get affected with the sins of others is so cheap.