Okay a girl at work that I like tries to talk to me every now and then even though I don't really make an effort to speak to her. When she talks to me I keep it as short and proffesional as possilbe because I really like her alot but she has a boyfriend and I feel it's pointless to get close to a girl that I like if she has a man. Anyway, she came up to me the other day asking me how i'm doing and telling me that she missed me the other night when everyone from work went out together. I just gave a very short response and left the room. Without getting into details the next day she intentionally screwed me over at work, i'm guessing becuz I didn't really pay much attention to her the previous day. I like this girl alot but I'd rather keep my distance from her becuz I know she has a man, and work relationships are trouble anyway. Are her actions justified and am I being a jackazz?
2007-06-17 23:59:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I say she screwed me over at work, it wasn't that serious, she just left me with extra work to do that she really should have finished before she left. It's not something she would normally do
2007-06-18 00:00:42 · update #1
I don't think your being a jackass , actually I think it's very good of you considering she has a boyfriend and all, but I think you should explain your actions to her and tell her that it wouldnt be wise to get any closer she having a bf and all and of course you working together . But what i wanna know is if she didn't have a bf would you even consider going out with her in the first place? Maybe deep down you only like her as a colleague and friend .
2007-06-18 00:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by holy_rolling_stone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are being a "jackazz," just because she has a boyfriend you don't want to be friends with her or even talk to her? You can still be polite, and maybe even flirt, sure you don't have to put the moves on her, but you don't have to be curt or be a dick and walk away when she asks about you.
2007-06-18 07:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by Damian B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i think, either she made a mistake or she's being very immature. If you believe she purposely 'screwed you over' then perhaps you should tell her that you like her but are respecting her relationship with this other guy. if she's mature she'll back off or ditch him. If not, stuff her.
You sound like a decent guy. Goodluck.
2007-06-18 07:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by bluecherry41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bro, its cool that you dont want to go after a taken woman. most guys dont care. if they did, i would get in as many fights. but some girls say they have a guy when they dont to make you jelous........my advice is this. be friends with her. be nice and show her your a gentlemen. open doors for her if your by the door or walking out of it too. but dont hit on her until you know she is single. its a man law that obviously a lot of guys dont know about. and yes. its ok to let her know that you like her. but dont remind her over and over. and dont ask her on dates or anything....she is taken!!!(so we think).
2007-06-18 07:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by music man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she has a boyfriend just keep it professional. And mixing work with dating can easily become complicated, you need to be careful not to upset your work environement with a bad breakup and emotional damage to either person.
2007-06-18 07:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by sensei ronald j.f. panlilio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that I would have asked her about why she left the additional work.
2007-06-18 07:15:18 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to corner her about these talks, and find out whether she really has/likes/loves her b/f or she said it to make u jealous.
oh,and pay more attention to her...
2007-06-18 07:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by Doc_HMT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes taken why bother??
2007-06-18 07:03:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋