We are military and live far from our parents. I am heartbroken my children don't get to see my husband and my parents or cousins often enough. We constantly move and each time we move I find it harder and harder to adjust. I have told my husband I cannot move again, but we are moving after just 18 months now. We have 8 more years until retirement. I don't know if I will make it.
2007-06-17 23:32:12 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i feel for you! I would hate to have to uproot everything every 18 months. The alternative is that you stay put somewhere near your family and friends, but your children are then restricted contact with their father. 8 years is a long lime to keep relocating (say you did every 18 months that would be another 5 times!) maybe you could find some way to compromise, like moving for the next couple of years and then finally settling down a couple of years before he retires so that once he leaves, you have a permanent home for him to return to. This will also provide some more stability for your children.
I'm sure that there has to be a way for everyone to be happy, but it will take some compromising from all sides. Remember that you have to put the happiness of your kids first and what is right for them will be the right decision. (finding what is best is the hard part.)
Good luck and all the best!
2007-06-17 23:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine your pain...is there any way to stay at one base after this next move until he retires? Does your husband understand that you are suffering? The only thing I would suggest is maybe making videos to swap with family and allowing your children to e-mail.
2007-06-18 06:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by Chickenfarmer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im military I miss family but we email, write, send pictures, video etc. My primary and immediate family is my hubby and kids, we move every two years, the kids are little and sometiimes like to move sometimes dont we have 3 and there happiness, my hubby and my happiness are more important i wish my kids had what i had growing up, surrounded by family but we visit they visit and this is the life i chose. What do you mean you dont know if you can make it? make it without your family ? youve been doing this already for 12 years? and you cant handle it> get a grip honey, you would cheat your kids out of there family, there father because you miss your family? i mean granted i said i feel bad my kids dont have there cousins,aunts etc but my hubby supports me and us and my USMC career as i did when he was in, we support are kids in every way and plus my family knows its the quality not the quantity of time they spend plus i love my husband adn kids and family but i wouldnt choose my family over my hubby and kids- you need to really think this over.
2007-06-18 06:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's military life, and that is what you signed up for. It is a hard life, but the rewards are plenty when you retire.
2007-06-18 06:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well offense but you knew what u were getting into when you met the guy so why complain about it.
2007-06-18 06:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by baby dust for me 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋