Me and this girl really like each other. She says she wants to date but she won't date me because she is too scared she'll get hurt. I tell her she won't know unless we date and she says she knows that but a part of her won't let her date me. And tonight she even said that we're practically dating, just haven't actually became bf gf. And she calls me baby, tells me she wants me every way possible which includes being able to call me hers, being to touch me whenever wherever, and just being together, but then she says she doesn't know if she wants to date. She has a history of cheating. Last night after not talking for about 5 hours she texts me just to say she's horny and what I would do if I was there. I was mad because she can talk dirty to me, but can't decide if she wants to date. I really need your opinion on what she's doing and what I should do.
2007-06-17 22:12:27 · 6 answers · asked by Harhar2930902 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just so you know I do tell her she needs to decide what she wants, but she just gets mad and tells me I have to be patient with her.
2007-06-17 22:21:02 · update #1
If she is playing me explain exactly what you mean by that. Do you mean she is just looking for some fun, like a fling, rather than a relationship that she says she wants, but won't let us have...
2007-06-17 22:22:26 · update #2
And she had been dating a guy for 6 months I heard and she cheated on him because she got horny. My friend told me this because he dated her in the past.
2007-06-17 22:23:54 · update #3
Yes we are only 15 almost 16.
2007-06-17 22:40:24 · update #4
OK--you wont like this but here it comes--she suffers from a lack of self confidence and low self esteem. You don't give your ages so I think you are young. This whole thing is new and emotions and hormones are colliding here. She will calm down--hopefully. If you are older--there are the issues I mentioned. It is a case of you wanting what you cannot have at this time. She controls what goes on in her life--not you. She will date when she is ready. There are NO rules to this part of life. It is nature. So stop talking and trying to convince her. It is frustrating for you and pressure for her. Her low self esteem and lack of self confidence is what she needs to work on. If not she will have a life time of despair and indecision. Texting is a a lousy way to communicate--but it is better for her than a face to face contact---try to only chat face to face and explain why--you prefer a more personal approach--keep the chats friendly and stop being a pest. Find stuff to do and stop thinking of all this--you are going to lose big time. Just be nice. You say she cheats??? well why would you want a cheater??? You sound like you have to win at this conquest and won't quit till you win her---at any cost--even with a lousy reputation. Cheaters are looking for acceptance--they like the attention and the easy relationship that requires No work. Again--she feels less than capable of having a normal trusting relationship so she takes the low road in affairs of the heart. may be she doesn't want to have a decent man. A rough lousy guy is always easier to keep. She feels she can't do any better. Again--there is nothing you can do. You face a lifetime of half baked love--no tenderness and lack of trust---move on and find a girl that has self assurance, dignity, integrity, respect, humor, and maturity. She is talking dirty on the text side because she has to keep your attention--she knows that it will keep you interested--it is not the way to be interested in anyone--sex wears off quickly--again a big disappointment awaits you. This girl is a waste of your time and dignity--so get moving and good luck. Ask yourself--do you really want a lifetime of these troubles???This girl will always be trouble for you--in a year you will be sorry. You can't win this time.
2007-06-17 22:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why SHE'S the one who's afraid of getting hurt when she's the one with a history of cheating. It might be that she doesn't want to hurt you.
But to me, she sounds like a player. She's probably not ready to get into a relationship b/c she's afraid of total commitment.
Don't push or force things. Just give it some time.
2007-06-17 22:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by rayna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her bluff. Tell her that you have enjoyed the games, but now it is time to quit playing and start taking some action. Give her the ultimatum.-- Either we start dating, or you stop teasing and taunting me.
2007-06-17 22:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would move on. I think she's playing with you because she can and that she knows you like her. I'm sure there are more deserving girls out there.
2007-06-17 22:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Monkey007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me she might be playing you but then again she maybe doesnt want "to get hurt". but just keep being friends with benefits.
2007-06-17 22:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by Krazy_Rican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave that one alone , shes just playing you hope it helps .
2007-06-17 22:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋