My friend's bf is starting to be moody on her and irretable but the guy claims it's a natural thing for him. My friend is starting to get suspicious because she feels that her bf is giving her a cold shoulder and starting to show less sweetness unlike before. I told her that it's natural because they're only in their 5 months but she loves the guy so much and it's starting to worry her alot..
2007-06-17 20:27:34 · 13 answers · asked by lostsoulprincess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He reasons out that he is just too busy in the work lately and he ask for her gf to understand him. He even told my friend to rest assure that she is the only one in his life, but he is just so busy thinking about work lately but it doesn't mean(he says) that he don't love my friend
2007-06-17 20:43:23 · update #1
Normally when this has happened to me in a relationship. It turned out the guy was trying to play me for a fool. After awhile I leave them. Unless he has given her a good valid reason for his change. She has reason to worry. He is showing signs of not liking her any more, that he's cheating or is interested in someone else.
2007-06-17 20:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to use this guide and compare her situation to it. Perhaps he has issues beyond his ability to discuss with her...like job, home life/family or another woman in his life. Good luck. : If A Man Really Wants You!
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he does not want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that is not meant to be.
S l o w e r is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve; then heck no, you cannot "be friends".
A friend would never mistreat a friend.
Do not settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Do not stay because you think, "it will get better".
You will be mad at your self, a year later, for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He did not marry them when he got them pregnant. Why would he treat you any
differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Do NOT EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he will cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of
two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
Dating is fun, even if he does not turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always knows where you are
and you are always readily available to him, he takes it for granted.
Do not fully commit to a man who does not give you everything that you need. Keep
him in your radar; but get to know others.
2007-06-17 20:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my boyfriend is moody and starting to get cold all of a sudden, I would get down to the reason why by asking him. If his actions are also cold, I would go on to the next relationship which doesn't require so much work.
2007-06-25 14:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by maestra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bf moody turns cold starting fall
2016-02-02 04:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by Hagen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a very giving person and she is "giving" too much, making him feel overwhelmed. That pushes him away. She wants to be "close" to him. But, she does it all, and gives it all, which cause him to withdraw and pull back. He comes across as cool or indifferent. He feels uncomfortable with her doing everything. That makes her kinda blame herself. What she needs to do is not give so much. Do less. The more she gives, the farther away he will move from her. Excessive giving [on her part] leads to a lack of interest [on his part] and discourages closeness on his part. She will eventually lose him, if she continues to give too much.
2007-06-17 20:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i go thru it with my guy all the time.he could be stressed out, not feeling good or even sore.that is how my guy is.i have been with him for almost two yrs now & we love the hell out of each other.we couldn't see living without the other one.just try to talk to him to see what the deal is. one other thing is he may want time to himself if he don't have it. i know more on this one then i could write now. but try to talk to him if that don't work then give him time & have him call u he will c what u mean to him.trust me i know from my relationship.
2007-06-17 20:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, loved definitely blessed's answers... sometimes people need some breathing space, with men, i call it cave time... let him have some room... tell her to get busy with things in her life she's put off or been too busy to deal with while spending time with him... absence can make the heart grow fonder... course, he could be pulling away because he's interested in someone else... tell her to be less available for a bit... sometimes that gets their attention best... i hate games, yet it seems we have to play them sometimes... peace for your journey and good luck!!!
2007-06-25 18:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Passion does die down with time but 5 months is pretty short. I expect he is pulling away, though he may be unwilling to admit it even to himself.
2007-06-17 20:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could be right but he could be cheating on her-she could go to the cheaters website and get her gut instinct confirmed or she could just move on
i vote for moving on-life is too short
i hope this helps
2007-06-17 20:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by msijg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably a cancer male. Cancers are very moody people.
2007-06-17 20:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋