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ok well im engaged to a guy but b4 we got together i had this fling with another man who i really liked but he was all messed up but hes ok now and we still keep in contact (the fianc'e dosnt know about him cause he hates him) my problem is that i still really like this guy and the last time we caught up he told me to leave my fiance, but never indicated it was for him (i just told him tht i was unhappy and wanted to leave) however he was and has been making continual advances like "im still waiting for the right girl to come along and you know ill always like you" and "he'll never appericate you for who you are" and so on........ so should i stay with my fiance or seperate with him??? i dont want to hurt my fiance and will not cheat on him.

2007-06-17 20:15:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Leave your fiance because you no longer feel happy with him: there is no reason to lead him on, let him go, so he can find someone else.

Then if you like this guy go out with him. Though I do have to agree that if he's trying to talk you into leaving for him, then he probably won't make a good bf.

See, if you start seriously considering other people and especially if they take over your thoughts, then you are no longer in love or happy with your current partner/relationship. So it's best to get out, rather than string that person along.

2007-06-17 20:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by Frances 4 · 0 0

It sounds like the marriage is already on the rocks, so you'll hurt your fiance less if you separate now rather than go through with an unhappy marriage. If you want to save the marriage then you'll need to kick out the other guy for a while, go into couples counseling, and come clean about your unhappiness, your attraction to this other man, and any other issues that you've hidden.

The other guy might be better but he's still messed up. Someone who would work to break up an engagement like this is not good relationship material.

2007-06-17 20:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 1 0

Look the guy was probably just trying to not prolong the inevitable. You're going to be breaking up soon anyway, what's a few more weeks/months of fake happiness going to help? I know how you feel, the feeling of wanting someone back and making big gestures to get them back but really in the end it's not worth it. They threw you away so don't beat yourself up over it what's done is done. If you really want to do something the only thing that you can do is tell him how you feel and then give him space. But honestly, I'd say just leave it. It'll just make the final break up even harder.

2016-05-18 06:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

To be honest (sorry if this is harsh), I don't think that man is right at all. If he's saying to leave your fiance, then he doesn't love you. He only cares for his selfish needs and doesn't really think of what you want. Stay with your fiance and don't make the mistake in going to the other man. He's a jerk.

2007-06-17 20:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 2 · 1 0

First off forget the safest way out. If you're unhappy why be with your fiance? If you were completely in love with him you wouldn't be even thinking about possibly leaving him for some other guy. Be honest with yourself. Life is too damn short to be unhappy.

2007-06-17 20:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

well if youre unhappy with your fiance then maybe that is why you are asking this question. fix whatever is the problem with your fiance. you shouldnt be unhappy. be happy. the other guy isnt really interested in anything except more flinging.

2007-06-17 20:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Wow only u can make that decision, we can only give u our opinion, but you have to be honest with yourself, my mom always said marry for comfort, not for love. Why did u get engages to someone u didnt love. And it could be pre marriage jitters, i say stick it out, u had a fling maybe thats all it was. Good luck

2007-06-17 20:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by tuttifruity 3 · 1 0

man dont be like that your just waisting your fiance time be real

2007-06-17 20:20:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

If you are unhappy with your current b/f, then please tell him so. Maybe he can change and you will be happy once more. If not, go back to the other man.

2007-06-17 20:46:41 · answer #9 · answered by James G 3 · 1 0

break it off with the fiance

2007-06-17 20:19:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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