If you fell in love with a man you believed was your soul mate, would you wait for them to be ready?

Question

I've never believed in coincidences, I know everything happens for a reason. I moved to Or. from So. Ca. 13 years ago, met someone, got married, and then was left homeless by him 8 years later, only feeling numb inside. I never believed in re marriage and couldn't even picture it in my head. Then, while visiting some group web sites, I noticed that one of the group members had put me in his "favorites" catagory. I brushed it off and went on chatting with my friends. Bare in mind, these are annonymous web sites and I never mentioned where I went to church or anything. 3 months into a new church I was attending, this guy sits next to me and I recognize him pretty quick from the web site. He later told me that he'd noticed me every Sun, but I never noticed him. Then I found out that his sis is married to my 1st gr. bf and they live in my hometown a couple blocks from where I grew up and my parents still are in Ca. I have been in love with him for a year now, but he doesn't feel the same

Answer 1

It takes two. Mutual.
And as the man is the head, the leader, the woman should'nt persue. Or you may get taken for granted, and be disappointed when you don't please him, and/or when his devotion is lacking.
But that's not the issue.
The issue is that if there is no "I DO!" by both parties, where's the security?
And what is it a woman seeks most in a man?


I would encourage you not to "seek".
Anything, with anyone.
Unless persued.
As the "seeking" will only cause you unnecessary grief and...
more loneliness?

Women seek and need protection, provision, to be unconditionally loved and accepted, but a woman's greatest desire/need is
-security-

Only enter, if secure!


If they can't say "I DO" with all of their heart, and actions, and at the altar, where is the security?

The same with sex. Any sex outside/before the marriage covenant ("I DO"), bears NO security whatsoever. Only a form of it. Don't give your pearls to swine. Who will just trample on them. On your heart. And crush what security you thought you had, w/o the "I DO".


Want security?


If both parties are not truly in agreeance...
what do ya have?
Someone will feel unloved, and neglected.



And be careful of codependency. Having to have someone just to HAVE someone.




God is Love.
Love is a choice.


Only God is Faithful and True.
Apart from trusting Him, there is no security whatsoever.




I had to learn to "Just breathe".
Not easy.
But I'm free and I'm blessed.
And when I quit "seeking", is when someone found me, that I now persue with all my heart.




God bless.




-DC-




PS. If you have/know God via Jesus Christ, have breath, bread and water, you have EVERYthing you need!
Just breathe.
(^.^)

Answer 2

Don't recognize. What I do recognize is that it is a HUGE waste of time. More occasions as no longer those men are watching for a few unusual to believe extra alive or to believe as despite the fact that they "nonetheless bought it". They are neither excited about nor are they making plans to depart their better halves. No topic what they have got instructed you or how honest they sounded while the stated it, its no longer going to occur. Conversely, a few females benefit from the noncommitted nature of seeing a married guy. They get the a couple of times weekly booty name to fulfill their demands and they may be able to be who they're with out the intrusion of a person telling them what they may be able to and can't do. Final phrase: so much persons can not manage informal intercourse. One will regularly get extra hooked up than the opposite and, finally, emotions gets harm and harm dangerous. More occasions as no longer, its the loved ones of the dishonest guy who will get stuck within the crossfire.

Answer 3

um ok so he was stalking you but doesn't love you. Honey if he doens't feel the same towards you then move on. It's not worth it. Let him be and find someone else who will feel the same towads you. Don't lower your standards for him. It's the mistake that most women do in order to fall in love. Trust me, it's not worth it.


Hope this helps

Answer 4

Unfortunately, we can not make the ones we love, love us. It happens all of the time. There is no sense in waiting for this gentleman. Move on. He may change his mind later, but you should not be sitting around waiting for this to happen. If it is destined to happen, it will in time.