I have liked him for awhile now and lately hes been asking me to sleep over and wanting to hang out a lot more. Also in the past month hes been wrestling with me a lot and teasing me, and really touchy feely and talking to me more. Hes 17 and im 15, im just worried that something might happen and my parents would find out somehow or something...thats the only thing im real worried about, im pretty sure that im ready if anything were to happen, even ready for sex...i just wouldnt want anything to happen the first time i sleep over and i dont know if hes gunna try anything yet...do you think he will?
2007-06-17 19:03:24 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive also known him a long time...and ive really liked him for awhile. im not saying that i would have sex right now just that i think later if i still have strong feelings for him and know he really likes me that id be comfortable with having sex. i know he cares about me...hes helped me threw a lot in my life that non of my other friends could.
2007-06-17 19:19:01 · update #1
I think you shouldnt sleep there. I know you may want to but its for all the wrong reasons. First of all your only 15 years old. You have all the time in the world to be with guys and sleep there. You guys arent even together so why would you want to sleep at his house? It may lead to bad things like having sex. Dont you want your first time to be with someone that you are in a relationship with and love. Your first time is suppose to be special and this guy is older so hes probably going to take advantage. If your worried that your parents may find out then it means your not ready for sex either. But i most likely think he will try something
2007-06-17 19:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by italiangurl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LMAO. Yes he'll try something! He's 17 and a guy, and completely driven by his hormones right now, and wants to have sex, especially with someone younger than him.
The thing is, more likely than not, he probably doesn't even care about you. He probably says he does, but I'm going to warn you, as a guy, he probably doesn't. He doesn't sound in anyway honorable, especially if he's trying to work the situation the way he is. It's a trick teenage guys use. He's 17, you're 15. Sounds like a small age gap, but it isn't.
My advice, wait a couple more years before deciding on sleeping over at a guy's house!!!!!!! Wow, imagine if you got pregnant at 15? Or worse, if you got pregnant and your parent's found out, because condoms aren't 100% fool proof. Yeah, they'd flip. At least in 2 or 3 years you'll be so much more smarter, especially on how guys are.
And make sure if you have sex, it's 1) protected, 2) with someone you've been dating a while (otherwise you'll feel cheap and horrible afterwards because it will have been meaningless.)
I'm not saying I'm right, I'm just just saying there's a 99.9999999% chance I'm right.
2007-06-18 02:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he probably will try something. I have a girl who stays here at my house, she is 18 and the one thing I have told her since she was 14 is if you have to lie about it, it isn't a good idea! If you are asking questions on yahoo about it, you are NOT ready...if you get pregnant, are you ready for a kid? Trust me you aren't....women in their 20s and 30s aren't ready most times. You are young and just starting out, once you have sex for the first time that is it, you can never have another first time...pretty sure isn't exactly ready...it is the one thing that should tell you to wait. Have you and he talked about it? Have you discussed birth control? Have you thought about how you really feel about having sex? Sex is a huge step, you don't mention how long you have been dating but it doesn't sound like long...please wait and make sure you are positive you are ready...find an adult you can talk to who will be honest with you and listen and not judge. The girl I mentioned, she came to me and really talked about having sex, she decided to do it and regreted it...but she did say she was glad she waited until she was 17, she was also glad she talked to me (I am 32 now) so she knew what to expect not the techical stuff but the emotional real life stuff. Take it slow, there is no hurry! If he pushes you then he is not the right guy for you. Trust me!
2007-06-18 02:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by Suzanne W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason you asked this question is because you ARE NOT READY TO HAVE SEX YET!
Of course he will try something. It goes without saying. Also, he is preparing you for his touch by wrestling with you more and more. He is mentally "planning" to have sex with or without your consent. YOUR CONSENT WILL BE GIVEN WHEN YOU SNEAK OUT TO SPEND THE NIGHT WITH HIM.
My dear, I don't want to frighten you; however, IT IS QUITE POSSIBLE FOR HIM TO GET MAD AND RAPE YOU! THEN WHAT. NO ONE WILL BELIEVE YOU SAID 'NO' WHEN YOU VOLUNTARILY 'SLEPT OVER'. IF HE 'REALLY LIKED YOU' HE WOULD NEVER JEOPARDIZE YOUR FUTURE FOR A NIGHT OF PLEASURE. THERE IS NO GUARANTEE HE WILL BE AROUND AFTER THAT FOR LONG. IF YOU HAVE KNOWN HIM LESS THAN 5 YEARS, YOU DON'T KNOW HIM WELL ENOUGH.
Take things a little slower dear. This guy may only want sex from you and then move on to another...then you will be all sad and hurt. TRY WAITING TILL YOU ARE 18 AND MORE MATURE TO MAKE THE DECISION TO HAVE SEX.
Truly, if you get pregnant, (accidents do happen even when precautions are taken) YOU PARENTS WILL DEFINITELY FIND OUT. YOU ARE NOT READY! GOOD LUCK
2007-06-18 04:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think you're ready for sex?
You're ready to catch a disease and possibly die for a night of sex?
You're ready to spend the next 18 years raising a child after a night of sex? You can get an apartment, a decent job and raise a child by yourself at 15?
You can't decide whether wrestling alot means he wants more or not and you think you are emotionally ready for the feelings you will have after sex for the first time?
You need to have a real talk about sex with your mother, school counselor or another female relative.
2007-06-18 02:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes he would. If he asked you to sleep over and with everything you told us I'm sure he would. You should really not have sex yet. Trust me sex at an early age wont make you happy. It will only cause you trouble and deep down inside I'm sure you know it's too early.
Please don't do it. Do it when you meet a guy you would trust blindly and when you meet him you will know what he wants from you and then you wont have to be afraid or ask anyone questions. Maybe it even is the guy you are with right now - but its not time yet.
You should wait.
The best thing would be to wait until you get married but i will leave that up to you.
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2007-06-18 02:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by dang-duh! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Where are his parents that they would let a 15 year old girl sleep over with their son? Of course he'll make a move. It's the equivalent to the famous "Let's go back to my apartment and watch a DVD" line from guys in their early 20s.
2007-06-18 02:08:07 · answer #7 · answered by Dee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a bit of an age gap. The first sign that you shouldn't spend the night with him is that you feel uncomfortable enough that you feel the need to ask the opinions of others whom you don't know. Personally, i wouldn't.
Of course, i don't know this guy, but keep in mind that he may not have anything serious in mind. That depends on his personality, and it's at your discretion to decide.
2007-06-18 02:08:40 · answer #8 · answered by Quaestor 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Umm obviously he wants u to have sex with him i mean having a sleep over come on guys dont ask for little innocent sleep over with girls,he only wants to use u for that only and once he had hell get over you like nothing happend,plus ur parents might find out, people at school might find out cuz guys dont keep secrets.i suggest u dont.
2007-06-18 02:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by ShinyGlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything points to...yes.
1. he's touching you a lot
2. you and him will be in HIS house
3. he probably senses u like him
You might want to watch out, though. In some states, the age to consent to sex is 16, and if your parents want, they could press charges against him since you're not of age to give consent for sex. That is, if they find out.
2007-06-18 02:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋