i have been seeing the same guy for 7 years we were to be wed but he walked out ...i was vary hurt but i gave him another chance when his family got involved and things got togh he split agin well ...when he asked for me back i said that i whould only get with him on one term that he finds a preacher and a date im not planning a wedding and im not going to wait for him to make up his mind wether he wants me or not i love his family how ever im not a rich girl so thay think im no good he cant shake what thay say so he just gives up and runs i should menchon that we ar evary good together we work well together best friends and when his familys not around were attached at the hip ...i just stared to see another guy it vary hard to love some one elese im intreested in this new guy but now my ex seems to be putting the pressuer on calling me textin me saying how much he loves me and wants to marry me i dont want to hurt any one but i cant have bolth who do i choose ..and how do i let go
2007-06-17 18:50:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy (maybe with help from his snobby family) has totally messed you up. He treats you like dirt but has you convinced that you work well together and are best friends. And being attached at the hip sounds to me like a nice phrase for being controlled and manipulated. This is the sort of mixed-up thinking that abusers can induce to make their victims dependent and subservient. I think you need to get away from both of these men, no matter how hurt they might be, and heal from this abuse before starting any new relationships. The new guy sounds like a distraction from your problems more than a real relationship anyway.
2007-06-17 19:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just have a couple thoughts on what you wrote...First of all, when things get tough, that's the best time to work together towards a common goal. He shouldn't "split" everytime times get tough. If he really loves you...he would be stronger. I dated a guy for 3 years...thought I loved him. We were going to get married too. Then, I took a step back...I thought about what I wanted. Not about what I thought I wanted or what I thought HE wanted. It's not about him getting over himself and you taking him back everytime. You need to first consider yourself. Make that a priority. If you don't...you're never going to be completely happy. I have now been married for 8 years...to a completely different and wonderful person. I have a wonderful life because I thought about what I wanted, and I found it!
I think that sometimes, when couples are together for so long, they forget WHY they're together. Think about it...what does he bring into your life? Why are you together?
If you are branching out and meeting new people...don't feel like you have to "love someone else" so quickly. Life is fun! Have fun. Date a lot...see what you like. you might surprise yourself!!! Good luck!
2007-06-18 02:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by Holly C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The old one has a very bad track record. Ignore him, if he were any good, he would not have hurt you before. He obviously does not value you above what his family thinks, ie, he's not worth your time. Choose someone who is dependable and serious about you and shows you by his actions. It may or may not be the new one, but it ISN'T the old one.
2007-06-18 02:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by Wretched Bonsai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
choose the new one. don't be stupid, girl. the old one broke your heart twice already. don't give him a third chance to do it again. choose the new one.
2007-06-18 01:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen to your heart , deary. if you want to let it go, just let it go. best way to do so...keep yourself busy or occupied. don't think of him. easier said than do but time will help you to let go. letting go early will save you lots of problems and heartaches
2007-06-18 02:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by Bront L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋