I know this may sound sleazy but it's not quite what it looks like. I have seen some recent signs (her looking at another guy while out the other night, letting go of my arm when a guy looks at her) that indicate to me that she is still looking to trade up. Might be a fluke cuz it was only one night but I also notice some other things as well that indicate she wants attention from other men.
So I am surrounded by girls who want to date me. Problem is I foolishly thought the girl I am with might be the one, that she was different than other girls, so I told everyone about her. Everywhere I go they now know I have a girl. Since she is keeping her options open, I want to too. How do I date these single women when they know I have a girl. They don't ask about her and I no longer mention her. They stilll flirt with me. I know you probably think I'm a jerk, but I am not, I have been faithful to her and now that I see that she still wants to trade up I want to too.
2007-06-17 18:01:31 · 27 answers · asked by Hocus P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It wasn't just a glance, she started walking slower and gawking at him. I had to call her name to get her to snap out of it. She kept turning her head to catch his eye for the first part of the night. If she is like this when with me I wonder what she is like when not with me.
2007-06-17 18:03:39 · update #1
I don't want to break up with her until I have someone better, looks to me that's her game.
2007-06-17 18:04:28 · update #2
yeah it's sooo horrible what I am about to do to her...do you realize she is doing it with me?
2007-06-17 18:06:45 · update #3
You don't have to cheat. Just break up.
2007-06-17 18:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by cop350zx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally if I were you I wouldn't waste the time stooping to her level. You should prove that you are better than her and just break up with her and tell her why. Then the day after you break up with her or for that matter the same day you break up with her you should go out on a date with one of the other ladies that you have talked about. You should also be sure to tell her why you are breaking up with her and then not only will she feel like a complete dumb#s$ but you will also get your revenge. Only in the process you wont make yourself look like a complete loser too.
2007-06-18 01:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by April C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite simply, you need to break up with her stating that "we might want to try seeing other people"...do not be a jerk about it to leave it open for reconciliation but it seems the curiousity of the opposite sex is getting to the both of ya. Save the drama and heartache of going through the cheating thing b/c being through that it is hell on both of ya. The stress of knowing you cheated, wondering if she knows, the secrets, etc...is overwhelming. You can "legally" cheat if ya'll are broken up even if it is temporary in an exploration type of circumstance. You may both find that the grass is not greener on the other side and you want that grass back to chew on!!
2007-06-18 01:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd make sure she's not actually keeping her options open first.
Talk to her. Explain to her that you've noticed these things & you're worried. If you're in a decent relationship like you seem to be, she should be able to discuss it with you, I don't think she'd shut down if you brought this up..
...but if she IS keeping her "options open" ... why not just break up with her? ... why would you cheat on her when you think she's scoping for other prospects & let a big ordeal blow up?? ... Save yourself the drama & break up with her if you ultimately decide that she's checking out other guys for a PURPOSE, and not just because it's in people's human nature to look at attractive things.
2007-06-18 01:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by WOLFpackGirl192 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious to me that you are looking for reasons to dump her, so why not do the honorable thing and end the relationship cleanly before cheating on her? Then all your problems are solved, except that you miss out on the pleasure of inserting a knife in your girlfriend's back. If that's your motivation in all this scheming, then you really are a jerk.
2007-06-18 01:13:04 · answer #5 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well If you break up with her for those reasons you are a bit shallow. she hasnt done anything and you looking to date other people.
Talk with her. put things on the table. let her know what you are feeling and you will know what she is intending. then maybe seperate and still keep a friendship. or maybe this will help make things more trustful and you may still think she is the one.
2007-06-18 01:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by curious6710 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
You're not a jerk.
I never understood the concept of having a relationship while wanting to see other people. Don't cheat on her, just break up with her, it will make things less complicated. Don't settle if you or your partner aren't ready for a relationship.
Good luck and safe sex! Cheers!
2007-06-18 01:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Victorious 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound controlling. She can look, just not touch.
If you don't want to be with her, break up with her NOW. Don't drag her along while you cheat on her. If you do, then you are just cruel.
Maybe you just need to talk to her. Ask her how she thinks the relationship is going. Ask her if she is still considering othr boys.
If you still feel the need to "trade up" (and that is a HORRIBLE term), then just do it.
You sound immature, controlling, and cruel. Please grow up before you get another girlfriend.
2007-06-18 01:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you confront your girlfriend about this? If she's not serious, leave her. Then you can date without any strings attached.
I just think that if you were to go around and do the same thing that she's doing to you, barely any girls would want you. I don't think they'd understand the reasoning behind your actions. They'd just tell themselves, "What a douche. He'll probably do the same to me if I get with him."
Only a few would understand your situation.
2007-06-18 01:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by Gwyn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clearly neither one of you were raised with high moral standards. If she is not acting properly towards you, the adult thing to do is communicate about it or leave her before doing something that lacks integrity. However, since you choose to act in a childish manner, be prepared to get back the same down the road. Karma is karma.....so don't complain about the consequences of foolish actions later.
2007-06-18 01:10:15 · answer #10 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, slow down. Before you do anything, I think you and your girlfriend need to sit down and have a nice long chat about how serious your relationship really is, how you both feel about each other, and where you see yourselves going. Why plan on moving on with somebody else before you've even tried patching things up with the person you're with now?
2007-06-18 01:17:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋