i haven't exactly been the best daughter ever.....far from it on the contrary- im probably the black sheep of the family. yea i've made my mother cry on several occassions. in school i raised hell and .....well school's over now- i graduated just this march (thank god!) . i have never really lived up to my parent's expectations y'know. the fact that i'm "rotten" and selfish is repeated atleast thrice a month. and i agree...i can be a really be selfish.
so anyways now i have to start college...obviously...i have to decide which 'line' i wanna choose-please don't say "you can change later"...its harder said than done. i had always been kind of confused about what i really wanted and really would love to do. i gave entrance exams for design schools and law schools and have got through a good number. now the thing is - i realized now that i'd rather do fine arts than do law if i don't get through design. but my parents dont agree...infact, they'd rather i do law cause its high paying
2007-06-17 18:00:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my father says it'll be more convinient for him if i were to go for patent law...also he talks about how lawyers are more "powerful" people in the society. but he doesn't get it- i don't care that much for power..maybe it was what he wanted- thats why he is a beurocrate. but i dont want what he does. i told my mom that im really not that interested in law and that i'd rather do fine arts ...she said that i was too young to know what im interested in. that interest can be "made"...like growing interested in something that you may not like and all. they think im stupid and dont know what i want. im frustrated about how they are being slfish about MY career. yea im selfish but aren't they too???all this is really growing over my head...i really love art and can't think of anything else i'd want to do for the ret of my life. im getting angry at my parents for thinking that i dont know what i want...that im dum...what do i do???how do i convince them???
2007-06-17 18:05:46 · update #1
i turn 18 in august
2007-06-17 18:07:01 · update #2
#1 Congrats on graduating. Sounds like no matter how you behaved in the end you did the right thing. Rotten and selfish? Who isn't, wasn't and can't be? You can and you will exceed their expectations because if they love you as long as you are happy, they will be also.
#2 A law degree takes many years of discipline and study and something you should have already been preparing for. By now it would have been the desire of your heart. They know this remind them of it.
#3 Any kind of higher education takes alot of hard work and dedication. No major is a walk in the park. Go sign up in college and do not declare a major yet until you have developed academically and know which studies suit you.
Try working, or volunteering if you can part- time in your area of interest. You may get to the party and realize you hate the music! I wish you well in whatever you decide to do. If you are afraid of all the decisions, tell your folks. Talk to them as an adult expressing your deepest fears. They will assist in directing your path if you show you have ambition. They only want to see you grow up and stand on your own two feet. God Bless you and good luck!!!
2007-06-17 19:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the basics, english, math etc, you also could take an art and law class for a semester, be open minded you might find you like something else during the four year period, but dont loose or gain interest so quickly because both will be a lot of work, dont let all the work discourage you. Your parents only want whats best. Do what makes you happy, college is four years or more, you have time.........
2007-06-18 01:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes down to it you have to please yourself. If you are successful I'm sure your parents will be proud of you deep down. You can't change the past and now you can start clean. Focus on what you want from life and even though you say that it's harder down the road to change your mind, you are kinda/sorta wrong. I went to college for Mass Communications and I'm going back for Education. The great thing about the human mind is that it never fills up, you can always learn new stuff and you can always take more classes. You're not limited in what you do. So take your time, you're young and you have all the options in the world. Follow your heart because it will always stear you in the correct direction.
2007-06-18 01:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by lala898 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have plenty of time to choose a major. Just start out as a liberal arts student and decide later. The main choice you need to make is how you will conduct yourself in college. You have a fresh new start. Few if any people will know you there. You will have to choose friends and decide how you will live your life. If you make poor choices, you could ruin your future. Keep your eyes on your goals. Otherwise you will go back to your old ways and make a mess of your college years. Make up your mind to change and start over. It may be your last chance.
2007-06-18 01:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what u want to. Sit down with yopur parents and tell them your really keen on design. Maybe prepare a plan to show them where u could be in 5 or 10yrs time. Show them your flair and some examples of your work. If they still don't approve don't worry it's your life and it's not selfish to do the job inj life that will make u happy. Good luck and follow your dream!!
2007-06-18 01:07:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first semester at least is usually spent doing core curriculum classes, like P.E, math, English, etc, so not knowing won't kill you right off the bat. Most colleges have career counselors who can steer you in the right direction, so meet with them as soon as possible. Get started, but go undeclared until YOU decide what you want to do. Your parents want what is best for you I'm sure, but you have to live with the decision ultimately.
2007-06-18 01:17:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should do what you want to do, it's you who will study and work for it in the future not your parents. If you get the course that you don't really like would you be happy in the future for that kind of job even if you could get high wage? and what if in case you fail the Board Exam, would you still be able to give your parents their wishes? Try to explain to your parents what would really work, it's for the best!
2007-06-18 01:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by lyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents have to understand that no matter what they want....you cannot excel in it if your heart is not in it. For example....would you go to a cardiac surgeon if you heard he had wanted to be a car designer and hated operating on patients. That would make me nervous. You see...You need to do what your heart is in or you will sooner or later fail at it if not quit it first. Then, how much time have you wasted? Good luck
2007-06-18 01:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by bunnylatte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should speak to a career counsellor from the school.A lot depends onwhat you are good at and you need high marks to get into law.You would be better off doing design or arts.You need to follow your heart and dont be pressured into studying something that you dont want to do.
2007-06-18 01:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have openly admitted being selfish,mean,adamant, strong headed,suspicious,and a black sheep.All these strongly indicate that you shall make a first rate Lawyer.Also,you don't have to change yourself later or all your life. Leave fine Arts for spare time hobbies.A person succeeds more in a profession for which he/she has the natural talents.Go ahead and make a life for yourself.
2007-06-18 01:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋