Or will it be too hard for you to get over it? Would you be bothered by mental pictures of her being with other men or see her as "used"?
I'm in a serious relationship now and am actually taking things slowly when it comes to sex. However, I was the classic sexually molested girl relishing in casual sex encounters while growing up (I'm std-free, mind you). I really didn't understand that I was simply "acting out" my abuse until I got older and of course I changed myself. No, I don't believe in cheating either.
I know I don't have to disclose such information to my partner, but in case you men find this information about your women....Would you leave her or would be able to forgive if she recognized that what she did was wrong and would you understand the reasons why she did it...especially since there's a strong correlation with being sexually abused and becoming promiscuous.
2007-06-17 17:45:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've known several women with such pasts are yours and it doesn't bother me. The past is the past IF a person chooses to change their habits. Since you seem aware of it and have chosen to settle down, then it's not an issue. Ditto in regards to cheating, so long as you won't be cheating, then it's all good.
It's not very different from a guy having been with other women. And let's face it, most people will have had more than 1 partner and so just don't give details like "oh yah so and so used to love it when I do blank blank".
Oh and also DO NOT tell him how many partners. Nobody wants to be #37 and think of the other 36. Just tell him that you had more than you wished and you are happy that he will be your last.
2007-06-17 17:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anthony R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love a woman you won't look back but see the future of you together.
Ummm... I guessed that was too hard for men because your ego is the most important part of your life. It would take much courage and love to do that. The possibility? Still there.
2007-06-18 00:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well honesty is the best policy...however before you get into any serious relationship the first thing to do is deal with the previous problems thru counseling, talking to friends(your boyfriend), etc. I think you are dealing with it quite well and I doubt he'll view you as used if you just tell him the truth.
2007-06-18 00:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't abused but I did the same thing when I was younger. Looking for love in all the wrong places. I have shared this with anyone I have been serious with and only one man didn't forgive me for it. He didn't care about me and never loved me as another person. Forgive yourself and don't worry about it. Everything you have been through makes you who you are today.
2007-06-18 00:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by I am me 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be bothered by mental pictures and knowing other guys have been with the girl I love, but if I loved her and she wasn't a cheater I could look past it
2007-06-18 00:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would understand. everyone has a history. some longer, some shorter. but as long as she's not the same promiscuous girl or cheating on me,it's all good.
2007-06-18 00:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would be ok,,,As long her weird affairs werent with
anyone I knew
That would be unsettleing and a real bummer!!!
2007-06-18 00:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by 4 strings 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋