I am in a loveless marriage. I don't know where to start to break free.?

Question

And how can I convince women, on line or other wise, that I am sincere about finding a new life and not a two-timing jerk?

Answer 1

You can start finding a new life by leaving the one you have for a fresh start. Be sure it's the only way before seeing a lawyer. Good luck!

Answer 2

First, you had better convince your wife, that the marriage
is over. Forget about trying to convince another woman
about anything. That's like jumping from the fat, into the fire.
I hope you don't have children, as that is something that would
have to be dealt with in your decision making. Sounds like
maybe all of the fun, desire and happiness has just hit a
snag. You don't give any particulars as to how long you've
been married, or what the problems are to cause you to be
in a 'loveless' marriage. Maybe you've had one or more
affairs that caused the two of you to live as you are now. It
always takes two, to usually disolve the love between two
mates. Maybe one didn't live up to the other's expectations.
Or maybe one didn't have enough time to spend with the
other person or take the time. There are so many reasons
for a marriage to go sour. But the first one always seems to
be a lack of communication. So that's where you have to
start. You have to communicate with your wife to see if she
will come to an agreement about dissolving your marriage.
Or if the problems can be worked out with a counselor or
between the two of you. If there's children, quite often differ-
ences can be worked out, if worked upon. There's nothing
more disastrous to children, if their parents separate. They
feel lost without the two together, and their world is torn
apart. Some children have psychosis for years after their
parents separate. So you have to decide if separating is
the right thing to do for the long haul.
This forum is not the place for anything long and involved
as far as help being offered. I suggest that you take a long
hard look at what you and your wife both want, and go from
there. I can't imagine why you want to involve another woman
into your life when you have a woman still in yours. No woman
wants to be the "other woman". I think to some degree we
are all wanting committments and want to live happily
ever after, even if we play the games some people do when
they are single. I'm sure glad I never did. I can see it's really
a hard world out there for singles these days. So many
mind games, so many insincere types. Well at least, there
are more options for singles these days. No having to hang
out at clubs and bars. Well maybe a Sushi bar, come to
think of it LOL. Times have sure changed since I was single
and I'm so glad I don't have to worry about it anymore. So
sorry if I can't help you with advice to how to attract someone
new. But I don't think in all honesty you are ready for another
committment anyway. You just want some love and affection
and are desperate to get it. Open up to your wife, and really
talk to her about your feelings. Let her know where you stand
and go from there. If you can't agree on making things work,
then agree to filing for a separation to see how that works.
Take it one step at a time. Until you are free it's unfair to
bring anyone else into your status quo. Try to think of
someone else, besides yourself, til matters change.

Answer 3

Are you truly looking to 'break free' or 'get a little action on the side'? If your marriage is truly beyond repair....get a divorce BEFORE attempting to start another relationship either 'on line or otherwise'. Any thing else and you are merely making anyone you meet the 'other woman' and someone WILL get hurt in the long run (Probably you when your wife sues you for over half of everything and spousal/ child support).

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Well, you could start by tying up your loose ends, i.e....getting out of the marriage before you go looking for anything else. It's not fair to anyone that you should be married while trying to "find a new life". Who do you think you are? Loveless marriage or not. You made a vow, either break it or don't.

Answer 5

You should 1st resolve your loveless marriage either by splitting or by counselling & setting back.
Only when this matter is settled, should you then consider finding love again. Otherwise, it's hard to convince someone else that you're sincere & not 2 timing.

Answer 6

Before you can convince women that you're finding a new life, you need to get out of the old one. Divorce first, then look to date.

Where to start to break free? Move out and file divorce papers.

Answer 7

That's a hard especially because it is a MARRIAGE theirs been a vow, promise, but it's up to you to take the initial steps to leave. It's not gonna be fast or easy but there will be a light at the end of the tunnel. And for every body you feel you need to convince that's easy SCREW them it's your marriage no one elses so it's you who has to go throu the fighting and the debates on wether who gets what!!!

Answer 8

Well first do something about your marriage. Then start looking, other wise you ARE a two timing jerk!

Answer 9

First place to start: A marriage counselor. If it's truly over and you both(I stress both) say it's over, find a lawyer.

To make other women understand you're serious: A divorce.

Answer 10

You can convince women by getting a divorce for starters. It's out with the old and in with the new...not in with the new and then out with the new. And unless you find some one you're really into then I would say it's none of their business that you've been married!