If you were with a guy for 4 years. And everytime yall got into a fight he would punch you in the face and one night he tried to rape you. Your with him because if you left you would be homeless. Most of the time hes a good guy except for when you two get into an argument. Then one day you met a good guy and yall both liked each other but he didnt have a job. would you stay with him until he got one, or would you stay with the guy that was controlling but nice except for when you got into an argument. Plus he wouldnt let you go see your family or go out with your friends unless he went with you. Then he started asking you to marry him.
2007-06-17 16:47:54 · 28 answers · asked by Rodney, j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would leave and live with a family member or a friend...You should call the police if dude is hitting you....
2007-06-18 21:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I want to tell you to get away from this no-good control freak of a man. I know their will be lots of good about him but men that hit woman are not worth staying with. You are being abused both emotionally and physically!! You need to get away.
Now this is easier said than done but their will be organisations that will help you through this. Take this brave step. Leave this man behind and step into a positive future.
In NZ we have an organisation that is called Womans Refuge and they will give you accomodation and counselling and all the care you need to help re-build your life. There will be something similar where you live.
2007-06-17 23:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stay with a guy who hit me and definitely wouldn't marry him.
IF I had to choose, I would stay with the guy who didn't have a job.
I feel that you should be there for her, but don't expect too much from her just yet. She's been in a long relationship and has become accustomed to the abuse, even though she hates it. It will be very hard for you to deal with her issues as her boyfriend. Perhaps helping her stand on her own two feet will be a great way to begin and will be extremely satisfying for her. It will build her confidence.
I think you're a great guy to be concerned about her.
2007-06-17 23:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say instead of going to the other guy without the job...why not trying to get a job yourself and stop relying on bums who don't want to work or like beating you up. You have a choice of how you want your life to turn out. Unless you are in a 3rd world country, there are so many ways for a woman to have independence in this country. Try it on your own and then when you meet someone, maybe they will be different because you decided not to settle.
2007-06-18 00:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by Mbh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you crazy?Id leave his *** in a heartbeat aint no man ever gonna hit me ill call the cops on him.LEAVE HIM! What if him and the girl has a kid?Hes gonna hit the girl when shes prego and kill the baby from abuse to the girl carrying the baby..Who cares if the other guy does not have a job..Give him time to get one.You don't want to be in an abusive relationship.Your family is everything to you.You dont want to loose them...He sounds like a controling man.Next thing you know you wont even be able to leave the house
2007-06-17 23:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by Hello_Gorgeous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
UUhhmmmm.....I think I would get some counseling and figure out why I had low self esteem and didn't realize I deserved better than a physically abusive man, or an unemployed bum! Better yet....I would go to college and provide a future for myself so I didn't have to rely on men to provide a miserable future. Sweety....you are going nowhere good with the options you stated. Respect yourself and get the help you need. Emotionally and financially. There are always options....it's a matter of being motivated enough to find them.
2007-06-17 23:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by wendy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so ud rather get beat n raped then b homeless? not me, go to a shelter.
Id rather stay with the broke nice guy who dient hit me in the face.
and he wont let u see ya family bc he knows they will take u in n then he wouldnt have a punching bag. n why does he want to marry u if he hates u so much he would hit u and why would u consider it? he dont love u! he is a low down nasty punk who will never b a man a day in his sorry life WAKE UP
2007-06-17 23:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He obviously won't let you talk to anyone cause he knows that he is doing something illegal. IF he is punching you, trying to rape you, and not letting you tell anyone, then you need to drop his a$$like a sack of bricks and go to that nice guy you met. even if he doesn't have a job, you can maybe tell your parents or other relative the story and they should be nice enough to offer you a place to stay until he gets a foundation under his feet.
2007-06-17 23:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by Joey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Other guy, for sure. Abusive relationships, I believe, aren't worth anything. If you're getting physically hurt, or verbally or even emotionally hurt in a relationship, it'd be best to end it and find someone who will actually take care of you.
It doesn't matter that he doesn't have a job. He'll find one eventually. Hey, you could get yourself a job too, while he's out searching as well.
2007-06-17 23:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by Ultraviolet 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are with the guy who punches you, DO NOT get into arguments. Avoid them at all costs. He is dangerous to you. Find a way to earn your own living; take classes; get a job so you will not have to depend on someone else: then you can choose who you want to have a relationship with: So long as you have to have someone to support you; you are making yourself available to bad treatment:
2007-06-17 23:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by Alicia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep away from the unstable guy. there is more to life than just money (it's just the same as taking a high-paying job that you hate; it's really not worth it). i would advise ditching the controlling guy (for some reason, women seem to like staying in bad situations and i can't figure out why, so TAKE THE INITIATIVE AND GET OUT RIGHT NOW!!!)
sure, go for the guy you like. you may as well.
2007-06-17 23:52:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋