how can i deal with letting my daughter go ??

Question

she is moving out soon and all i do is cry.. i don't want her to leave .. but i know i have to let her... what can i do ??

Answer 1

I'm so sad for you... I just want to hug you ... sometimes I guess there isn't really an answer to give ..I don't know how I will handle it when my son leaves home .. I have a while to go (thank goodness..he's only 13) ..but you have to trust that she will miss you as much as you miss her and she will be in regular contact with you .. before long it will seem like she never left at all. .. I know this doesn't help ..I still want to give you a hug! Ü

Answer 2

If she is leaving for a dorm for college , don't worry about it... Once she is out of the house.. she will get lonely and things will be different for her too. Alot of the people who start out in a dorm end up coming home eventually.. (and going to a local college) some sooner than others.. Right now , let her feel the great feeling of independence. Its a new experience for her and just call her cellphone once in awhile and make sure everything is alright. Just think of it as a new chapter in her life and you should support it (especially if its for her education) Wish her luck and also good luck to you for dealing with this!

Answer 3

I know this isn't really an answer to your question, but I just wanted to say, as someone who just recently graduated college, that it's honestly very touching to read something like this and know how much our mothers miss and worry about us. I'm sorry you have to go through this hard time, but I want you to know something - this doesn't necessarily have to be a time of "losing" your daughter. Rather, I have found, both through personal experience and observing my peers, that children (especially daughters) tend to actually grow much closer to their mothers after they have gone through their teenage years and gone out into the world... suddenly, you realize that you're not always right, and that you really do need your mother's love and support. You suddenly become more easily able to relate with, and openly talk to your mother, and the relationship becomes something of an extremely strong, unbreakable friendship, rather than the teenage-years fight for control. :) Good luck to both you and your daughter, I hope this difficult period brightens soon.

Answer 4

How old is she?

Is she going to college? getting married?

Is she moving across the country? across town?

I would be honest with her and tell her how you feel, but at the same time, let her know that you trust her and you have confidence in her. And you are just a phone call away.

Answer 5

It's hard being an empty-nester, I know. Make sure she has free long-distance service, and let her know she can call you anytime. You call her sometimes, too. When you find funny pictures, e-mail them to her. Give her a digital camera and have her take pictures of everything--her dorm room, her roommate, the fountain, her favorite prof. and e-mail them to you. When you hear gossip about her old friends, let her know. Take up a new hobby, especially one in which you're helping others. It will take your mind off yourself. Invent special occasions and invite her to spend the weekend. Moms have done this for centuries, and you will survive. Just trust that you have raised a level-headed, smart young lady and trust her to behave herself.

Answer 6

First, don't let her see you cry.
Get out the photo albums and remind yourself of the good job you did raising her so she is capable of moving out. Get out more and make new friends.

Answer 7

yeah that's a good suggestion about the albums.. also i'd try seeking out some friends who have had similar experiencing of having a hard time with their kids moving out..

possibly a group on yahoo; or myspace???

hope those help...

Answer 8

you need to get a hobby...get your own life...sorry to say it but I have found that most of the women, that I know, that cried when their kids moved out were not living their own lives, they were living through their children. My mother lived through us it was hard for her when we moved out, I was the only one that had nerve to tell her to get a life she turned to living through my father. She had a fear of life...don't be her, for your sake as well as your daughter's.