ok... i will be 21 in november... and my parents WILL NOT let me move out!... i have a place to stay already, rent-free might i add!... and i jus payed off my car 2 days ago, i am getting my own car insurance, i work a great job bringing me in at a lil over $1000.00 every 2 wks., with benifits (insurance and all), so i wouldnt have to pay for much of anything, jus car insurance and a cell phone (required for my job), but i packed up ALL of my things into MY car yesterday, and i said i was leaving... i told my mom goodbye, then i go out to my car and my parents had my older brother (23) park his car behind me, so i couldnt get out, and they WILL NOT move the car... i hate it here, all my mom does is yell at me ALL the time!... help!!!! what can i do to get out of this he**hole?!
2007-06-17 14:58:09 · 14 answers · asked by so-in-love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you need to call the police then. they are holding you hostage and this is a criminal offense. that or sneak out when everyone is at work or asleep, then have the police return with you to pick up your stuff
2007-06-17 15:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked your parents why they don't want you to move? Are you contributing to the household finances (Board & Room)? If they need the income from you, just maybe they are living beyond their means. They just let time slip by on the them and before they knew it you were old enough to move and be on your own. That happens some times, and they didn't have much of chance to plan for your departure. Does everybody work in the house, all have full or part time jobs? If the answer is yes, and they all leave within a couple of hours of each other you really don't have much of a problem. First empty your car and return everything to your room, I now this a pain in the butt, but do it anyway. This will give your parents the satisfaction that, they will think you changed your mind and your going to stay home. Then in a couple of days, say on a Friday wait until everybody goes to work, go to your room and clean it out as fast as you can, and leave. Don't say goodbye to anyone, but be safe and swift about getting out. Good Luck.
2007-06-17 15:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by Butch. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - if you were my daughter,I would be soooo proud of you! You sound very responsible and independent already. That's great! Maybe this is more about where you will be living (rent-free, as you say) or who you might be living with - more than the fact that you want to live on your own.
I have an 18 year old who's also responsible (but a boy), but he's going to wait a year and work before college. (I'd love him to live on his own for a year!) I am not sure why your parents won't let you go, but it sounds like you need to talk calmly and respectfully! all the best to you!
2007-06-17 15:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by what's up? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the have to move the car at some point!! Had you told them i advance that you were moving out or just sprung it on them? What had they said when you told them. And if you hadn't told them yet, then maybe you should of. But just try to convince them that you are old enough and mature enough to go out into world. Make sure they know you will visit them, they may be scared that you will cut them out of your life. Just gently let them know that it is time for you to test your wings and fly away from the nest.
2007-06-17 15:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Puppy Lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your parents, the dude you probably trying to run off with is going to leave you within 3 months of you moving in, then you will find out the truth. Does he have a car, where does he work Burger King or McDonald. Where is the apartment, in some slum. Insurance goes up in the wrong neighborhoods $$2000 a month ain't no money in the real world. Then what, MOMMA I'm sorry can I come back home.
2007-06-17 15:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by Tom Thumb 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Legally, your parents cannot force you to live at home, at your age. Get the police (or respected relative/clergy/or someone of authority) to assist you in leaving. It is sad that it has come to this, but it may be necessary for you to get some assistance in the matter. Just make sure you have your head together and are ready to make it on your own. Good luck!
2007-06-17 15:39:16 · answer #6 · answered by BLM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol. . .damn girl my parents KICKED ME OUT when I was 16 ! Just wait until your 21 . . I'm assuming that's the legal age to move out where you are . . If not , then they really can't MAKE you stay . Just leave when they aren't there , or call the police . . Or just try talking to them about it . Tell them that you want to move out and start your own independent life . . I'm sure they will understand .
2007-06-17 15:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by Chante Alexis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what their issue is. If you are moving in with a boyfriend they may find it offense to their way of life. If that is not the case, just wait until they aren't expecting it and move out. They can't keep you there forever.
2007-06-17 15:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents that you want to make your own life and give them some freedom now that you are 21.They cant make you stay.Legally you are an adult.
2007-06-17 15:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything to them, just pack your stuff and leave, if that don't work goto this site: www.thepayback.com
2007-06-17 16:46:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋