2007-06-17 14:29:28 · 14 answers · asked by DeborahDel 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It's very wrong and rude. All you want is their gift, not to include them in your wedding celebration. Smart people won't attend your bridal shower if they are not invited to your wedding.
2007-06-18 00:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to agree with all the "yes" answers - in a way, I still do. However, when I got married, there were a few of the older women my mother knew (old co-workers or neighbours) who weren't close enough to be invited to the wedding, but who WANTED to go to the shower. I insisted that they NOT be invited to the shower, but I think they felt bad about it. In the end, I wish I had just invited them. Weird, I know. Maybe it's part of the whole "sending the woman off" ritual.
So, maybe there are older women who might make you bend the rules. Other than that, you'd better invite shower attendees to the wedding.
2007-06-17 22:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's like you are using them to get a gift. That's not right!!! How would you feel if someone invited you to their bridal shower and not to the wedding?
2007-06-17 21:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by mdwst_qt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on your situation. If you're having a small, close-knit family ceremony, I can understand wanting to have a lot of people at your shower who wouldn't necessarily be at your wedding. Receptions are especially pricey, so I'm sure they'd be understanding if you explained the situation. However if it's just an acquaintance or relative you don't know well enough to invite to the wedding, it's rude and tacky. It makes it out like all you want is there gift, not their company.
2007-06-17 23:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by dolce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, it's wrong to not invite to the wedding someone you want at the bridal shower.
Why don't you invite this person?
If you just want the extra present, yes, that's wrong.
2007-06-17 23:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Why wouldn't you (or whoever it is) invite her to the wedding, if you invite her to the bridal shower? It makes no sense.
2007-06-17 21:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! How horrible. Imagine, being invited to the bridal shower but then... NO INVATATION TO THE WEDDING! That's a big slap in the face!
2007-06-17 21:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by Alexis G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, YEAH! What would you think in her place? Invited to a shower so you can get a gift out of her, but she's not good enough to get invited to the wedding?
Slap in the face.
2007-06-17 21:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone is close enough to you to be invited to the shower why wouldn't they be invited to the wedding?It would look as if ok you can buy me a gift but you cant come to the wedding?????Rethink this one.
2007-06-17 21:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by luckiestarrr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
UHH>>>YEAH,,,it's like a slap in the face. Here you can come to my Bridal Shower,,,but I'm not inviting you to my wedding. How RUDE!!
2007-06-17 21:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by creeklops 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋