2007-06-17 14:06:19 · 12 answers · asked by Chichiri 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time will heal. If I were surviving a first break-up, I would get rid of anything that reminds me of that person and go on with my life. I would allow plenty of time for fresh wounds to heal. break ups are like a death. The relationships dies. We have to bury the relationship and go on with the grieving process. Once acceptance sets it, then we can go on to another relationship.
2007-06-25 08:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by maestra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and find someone who will replace this lost love. You will always have feelings for her because love is not something that goes away in our hearts, we merely replace it with another for someone else. Don't allow feelings of animosity or hate to grow and fester inside of you, it will only cause you to not be the person you really are and you will eventually think that all others are the same way. We don't always find our true love the first time, besides the first time is usually an infatuation or puppy love as most would say. Real love is when it is all about the other person and you take on the position of number 2. When it comes to love, only you can decide if it is about what you want or what you are willing to sacrifice for the other person. Marriage is a sacrifice and when you see two people who have taken that step it is normally each doing all they can for the other - a sacrifice.
2007-06-25 20:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by Angel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww it's hard isn't it. But life does go on. First you need to rid your room of all the things that remind you of the person. Put them in a box out of sight if you want to keep them anyway. Then start trying to make new memories instead of stirring up the old ones. Don't talk about the person so much to others or frequent the same places you went to when together or apart. Make new friends if you have to. You will be fine and get better at it since this is not the end and there will be others! Good luck!
2007-06-25 18:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by B2thaD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God I wish there was some perfect remedy I could give you.. Because we have all been there and we have all done that. It hurts. Plain and simple kills.. And in all honesty.. There is nothing anyone can tell you that is instantly going to make you feel better.
The best way to deal with the hard break ups is to just let yourself cry. Be sad for a while. If it doesnt start to feel a little better in a month.. Try talking to the person. Some people will tell you to forget her.. But you never will..
I dont know who initated the break up.. But tell her how you feel in a couple of weeks if its still getting to you.. It'll make you feel better, and who knows.. By then maybe things will be able to work themselves out..
Thats the best advice I can give you.. And if you loved her.. No you wont get over her.. And you will always love her.. But it will dull and you will be able to love again..
2007-06-17 21:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy my heart goes out to you, it is a very painful experience. I was married and left for a younger woman, and cried in bed, and my mom brought me chocolates, and love, and told me "this to shall pass". I felt it was the end of the world, and then it was for me. But I have to say because of it I have grown into a more compassionate, loving person. I am more empathetic, and actually continued a journey of self discovery - one of finding who I was outside of being a mom, a wife, - Who was I as a person. It is actually a time for growth. But about the pain, drag yourself out of bed and force yourself to do things that you normally love, and be around loving friends and family, and eventually, slowly the pain starts slowly going away. Then the sun comes out and you look back, and say GOD I NEVER WANT TO GO Through THAT AGAIN!! But you do, and you pick yourself back up ,,,
Actually I found getting a small notebook, and asked my friends, and family to write something in my book that they appreciate about me. And when I was sad I would read it and smile.
2007-06-25 20:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by nicki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. A good thing to do is remember all the things you dislike about the person, and why they were wrong for you, and the fact that you don't want to date someone who doesn't want to date you.
It'll take time, too. You'll get over it eventually, but don't expect quick results.
2007-06-17 21:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by sweetdreams99279 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to take time to move on but it will happen. untill then try keeping busy so you don't think about her to much. Find a hobby, hang out with friends, or maybe read a good book.
2007-06-25 20:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by just some one else 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will and you will have many more till you find that one that has been waitn for you since the day you were born. hang out with friends for the summer and forget about him he does not need your time or tears
2007-06-25 20:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is the deal...you have to get over her...you may still like her, but just give her your space, and watch her like a hawk but dont make it noticiable...if she shows any kind of interest just try to worm your way back into her heart...its worth a try...good luck!
2007-06-17 21:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just go out and pull another one......plenty more fish in the sea it may not seem that way now but in time you will think what the hell did i see in that twerp!!!!
2007-06-25 15:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋