Things have been really rocky in my relationship. One moment things will be going fine and the next we will be arguing about something stupid. Like today he got mad because his picture wasn't on the front of my phone. I'm really tired of arguing over stupid things. What should I do?
2007-06-17 13:37:01 · 12 answers · asked by Beautiful G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would agree that he is controlling. Ask him for your space. If he agrees, he may think that HE is giving YOU space--hence he still is in control. I can almost guarantee that a few days later he will ask you sweetly and kindly to get back together. Not always, but many times controlling men will control even a dead relationship. So, be prepared for his begging and his telling you that he'll change. He will change--for about 2 days. You need to ask yourself, is this the type of person I want to live with for the rest of my life! If this is how it is while your dating, what will happen if you get married. It's after marriage that many men take off the happy mask and their true identity comes out. At least you're seeing some of this now rather than when it's too late.
If this is a relationship that both of you want, then you will need to sit down with someone else to discuss these problems. A problem is merely a symptom of something deeper. Maybe he doesn't feel appreciated, maybe it's something else. An outside source will be able to help each of you through a bump in the road. I would suggest someone who meets with people on a regular basis--a priest or pastor or counselor, or even a couple who's opinions you and your partner will trust.
A problem will never go away.
2007-06-17 13:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by konroyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get both your mind and heart in sync. Keep in mind that if you are arguing over dumb things, there are major, major differences that you aren't talking about. The stupid things are simply substitutes for the big things. So, realize that there are major problems and the dumb arguments won't go away until you deal with the biggies. Ist sounds as though the two of you aren't ready to deal with them.
2007-06-17 20:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on whether you really love him and think things will work out sum how, but if you kno he isnt the one then you should leave. If you love him then follow your heart and stay with him. Itis hard if he is the jealous type cuz then you have to deal with him yelling at you when you are talking to some guy. i hope my advice helped if not i am really really sorry
good luck <3
2007-06-17 20:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by Bree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to have a heart to heart talk with him and let him know that you are tired of fighting about stupid things and if it keeps on it's obvious you aren't meant to be together...
2007-06-17 20:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by Invisible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the relationships not going to last. I think you shouldnt keep dating him. If he gets mad at you for stuff like that, let him go,you will find someone else who doesnt make you mad all the time and doesnt care about stupid stuff like that. Hope i helped =D
2007-06-17 20:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by mackenzieedmonds 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy answer to this situation. Only you can make the decision: is he the right guy for you? Try talking to him about what is going on. If he completely disagrees or attempts to place all the blame on you, I would suggest finding some one who appreciates you better...they are out there. I wish you the best.
2007-06-17 20:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by JJK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The link below is to a blog I posted on my Myspace poetry page. I uploaded a poem I wrote a couple of years ago about a pretty similar situation to yours. I pray it can give you some insight.
2007-06-17 20:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kori spelled backwards is Irok 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, this guy seems like he has controlling issues. Let him know that he needs to let you breathe a little bit and that you're not going to cheat on him so he can relax, good luck
2007-06-17 20:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by Hey-man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you scared to leave? If you think you need to end it, that is probably the best thing to do. Your heart will recover I promise you.
2007-06-17 20:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by Max 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your head is telling you to leave then leave. you cant always follow your heart. If you are unhappy then leave.
2007-06-17 20:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by kystik83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋