Okay, heres the situation. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 9 months now. Shes been planning to go to a University about 6 hours away from me for the past 4 years, and I'm going to stay where I'm at. Now she wants to move in with a guy friend of hers that she has known for 7 years, and some other person as a roomate in a dorm up there. They have never liked each other in the past 7 years that they have known each other, but they feel comfortable with each other as friends. I'm not sure what I should do, or if it can work out. Can someone give me some advice, and opinions.
2007-06-17 12:09:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
* Bit of a give-away isn't it?
2007-06-25 08:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mariska 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four years is a long time and six hours away makes it really hard. You have a lot of thinking to do here. Both of you are going to grow and change and make new friends. Over time you could grow apart.
Ask yourself this question ... "am I so crazy in love with her that I can't live without her?"
Now ask yourself "am I absolutely certain of her love for me"?
If you have any doubts; then there's your answer.
Long distance relationships can work but to be honest with you I do sense a bit of hesitancy on your part. May it's just the trust thing with the old friend.
Have a long heart-to-heart where both of you can discuss your thoughts, fears, etc. And maybe together you can decide what's best.
2007-06-25 02:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly want to be with this woman, when she visits from college or when the opportunities arise - keep it alive.
Logically, you are going to meet new people and have new experiences. She is going away to college and will meet people and have new experiences.
It will be a shame if you deny yourself the chance to experience "the new" because you are stuck in a bubble over someone living in a completely new place. You owe it to yourself to open yourself to new experiences.
Years from now you will look back on this time and be proud of yourself for not closing yourself off, and will have countless memories and experiences to look back on.
2007-06-25 14:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by yoak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not want to judge, but if my GF wanted to move in with a guy I would say NO, or if she insists then it is asta la vista. I have been with female women whom I did not like before, and found myself alone with them, and getting cozy. If you know what I mean.
Put a man and woman together, for a fair amount of time and anything can happen.
All it takes is a match to start a forest fire.
2007-06-25 16:07:49 · answer #4 · answered by Strong but fair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
totaly! I like this guy who lives 6 hrs. away, and after i asked a question on what to do becuase he's also 3 yrs. older they said its cool and now i asked him out and were still going strong!
2007-06-25 18:54:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might think of him as boyfriend material but not sure but she might like you more so ask her about it
i am not so sure about the distant relationship thing though bcuz personally i think they suck bcuz you cant like go on a date w/o driving like a really long time
2007-06-25 19:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is a good roommate for her.don't stress the little things
2007-06-25 14:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my!!! this is going to be very hard for both of you. if your love is strong and meant to be, it will work out. but it is not easy. i am in one and it really sucks.
2007-06-17 19:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by chwylvr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋