I feel bad when my parents comment about how others (my brother, or cousins) are happy in their life. They are married and busy with their families.
I do know that everyone has problems, but I see mine as worse than others.
I feel like I am the only one whose family lif did not work out and could not give the best to my daughter. She is 15 and lives in another state.
She does not want to talk to me or see me this summer. She is supposed to visit me this summer per the Visitation guidelines.
I see everyone else as happy and me as a miserable failure in life that people have to have pity toward.
2007-06-17 11:36:31 · 5 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have had a tough life, and you and your daughter have survived. She is 15...she's not going to want to travel over the summer to spend time with you and don't take it personally.
You are wallowing in your self pity. Go take a shower and start your life new...get involved in your community, volunteer for the less fortunate than you...there are people worse off than you - believe it.
Go to the library and get a self-help book. If you don't want to feel that people pity you...then stop acting pitiful. You are in charge of your destiny...make it what you want it to be.
2007-06-17 11:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes and unfortunately family members make it hard for you to overcome these issues when the make comments like those. Whether they are meant innocently or said to be ignorant, people like you and many others take offense to that extremeley.
Be proud that you have admitted you made mistakes and now your taking responsibility to fix them. You might not get instant results, but if you keep progressing well they will come sooner than you expect.
If you feel your parents are making these comments to send you a wake up call or they say them at inappropriate times, talk to them about it. The way people view you also plays into the way you go about things in your life, so its important you talk to them.
You dont give to much detail about your daughter, but I suggest trying to talk to her as much as you can about why she doesnt want to come see you. If she needs time to clear her head, maybe you two can agree on half the Summer or just a couple of weeks.
Hope this helps..
2007-06-17 11:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self loathing is getting the better part of you. Stop looking for approval from others. Do what comes naturally and you will be successful in your relationship with you daughter. Daughter is scared because she is only 15, can you blame her? Hell no, plan something big for when she comes out. Hint: Amusement park - together on rides.
2007-06-17 11:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by nancie_usa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember the grass always appears greener in the other pasture. behind close doors you're right ..no one is perfect. marriage has become childish in some ways as one or the other has unrealistic expectation in a relationship. single you can keep pace with the Joneses. married.. you better keep up with the mortgage payment and the real world and not a magazine. feelings are now.
2007-06-17 11:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by chucky5050 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents are makeing you feel bad.you schould think good things bout yourself.your problems will get better,think about your daughter plan fun things to do togeather,start seeing yourself as a happy person,you are a very special person.god made you special.all ways remeber that...MAY GOD BLESS YOU
2007-06-17 11:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋