so here is what happened... my grandpa married my grandmother.... she is my blood grand mother and he is her second husband.. he was married before and had 7 kids... the never call unless they need money. so today on father's day one of his kids who is like 45 y/o leaves a happy fathers comment on myspace and wanted me to tell him for her... so i wrote a comment back to her mother( who's myspace she used to write me)
here is the message
it would be a better idea to call him and show your apperication than to write a e-mail to me to tell him. that is your father after all... so please dont send your regards to your father over myspace. if you have enough time to get online then you should have time to phone him wish him a happy fathers day.
take care
then she wrote:
HI LATROYA, I CALLED DEBRA TO TELL HER ABOUT YOUR MESSAGE AND SHE WILL TRY TO BORROW ELOISE'S CELL PHONE TO CALL HER DAD. SHE WILL EXPLAIN TO HIM WHY SHE ASK ME TO SEND A MESSAGE TO ALFREDO ON YOUR MY SPACE. SORRY FOR USING YOUR MY SPACE TO COMMUNICATE WITH A MESSAGE TO ALFREDO. WE APPRECIATE YOUR COMMENT BUT CIRUMSTANCES THAT DBRA IS GOING THROUGH IS SO DIFFICULT. SHE WILL EXPLAIN TO HER FATHER. THANK YOU . DIANE
2007-06-17 11:17:42 · 6 answers · asked by pisces_dreamer06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and i wrote:
thats fine. well i hope things get better... but he doesn't use myspace and it would look bad for me to say happy fathers day for her and tell him that she sent a myspace.thats all... i understand things come up but also at the same time it seems as if they never call just to say hi. i dont mind telling him things if u guys communicate over myspace, but its days like this that a call would be nice... well i hope everyone is okay and blessed. hope that all of you guys situations get better.
take care,
la troya.:)
please dont take this the wrong way. i was just an observation...
do you think i am wrong for saying something... i am not a child although i am young 19, but i feel it was out of line to do that. he is their father after all and they always use him for money and i am tired
was i wrong?
2007-06-17 11:19:15 · update #1
I don't think you did anything wrong since you didn't know the phone circumstance. I understand how you would feel that the myspace post would be a bit unthoughtful, a phone call takes the same amount of time, but you didn't know the difficulties.
Reading the response says a lot, too, which you had no idea of. Consider relaying the message to her father, just so they know you were not being inconsiderate, yet uninformed of Debra's circumstance. A post back to Diane's myspace might be a good idea (I think I have the scenario right) letting them know that you relayed the message. After all, they should know that you were not trying to be inconsiderate, yet concerned about the impersonal greeting.
The older you get, the more life will teach you that nothing is apparent, most is hidden through lack of knowledge, a quick response is not always the best response....we ALL learn this lesson. You show your concern by your question, it disturbed you, sometimes that's a good thing. Take care, be well.
2007-06-17 11:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by leslie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this family only thinks about themselves and their needs and this attitude can not be changed. I don't think you were wrong to let them know they should make direct contact with their father.
It is just not part of their frame of reference to take full responsibility. In situations such as this they will turn it around and make it your problem as they have done.
Let your Dad know what has happened and tell him you are sorry you just feel that they went about things the wrong way, in your own words of course.
It sounds to me like they are going to give a big sad story and make you the bad guy out of this. Now you know why your dad is with your Mum.
Take care and I hope it all works out for you.
2007-06-17 18:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by sag_kat2chat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt do it on a myspace. i would call, send a card or email , though email is kind of impersonal but still its the thought that counts
2007-06-17 18:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by broz215 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TMI
I wouldn't have got into it like that. Next time ignore all of it, and just do your thing for the dads in your life.
2007-06-17 18:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you were judgemental and wrong.
2007-06-17 18:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by October 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
what's the harm? just do it
2007-06-17 18:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by sjdelp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋