I promised my girlfriend that I would attend her graduation this Tuesday. I'm a freshman in college and she's a senior in high school we've been dating now for 2 years. She also asked me to come to her graduation party months ago.
Here's the problem Tuesday nights are basketball nights with the guys we play Tuesdays and normally if I'm not in class I'm working. This is the first Tuesday that I will have off probably ever because Tuesdays are shipment days where I work. I really want to go play basketball with the guys. I'm not a big fan of graduations and she knows I support her and I am proud of her.
The other problem is I have a best friend from New York who lives 8 hours away. He finally got his license he's 21 (sad, yes) But he finally got his license and is taking a road trip down. I saw him last month. We used to live near each other and we are best friends. Well, he may be coming to visit the week of her graduation party.
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2007-06-17 11:06:47 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's hard for us to see each other because the two of us both have jobs. He works part time I work full time now that it is the summer. I really want to spend time with him.
My girlfriend wrote me a note explaining to me that she was fine with me going to play basketball Tuesday night. She said it was fine if I did not attend her graduation and she understood I needed time with the boys as well as time with her. (I thanked her for that)
She also asked me to please make sure my friend does not come down the week of her graduation party. She begged me to be there for her and said it's very important that I be at her graduation party not so much the graduation itself.
I don't understand why....
the problem is if my friend from New York comes down I can't tell him no. He's my best friend and I don't see him often. I really want to hang out with him. I have yet to tell her that but if he comes I'm not going to her graduation party.
Am I being selfish?
How do I explain this to my girl
2007-06-17 11:09:04 · update #1
just to add she does not like my best friend because he USED TO BE a heroin addict dropped out of high school and lives and a trailer park. She doesn't want him there!
2007-06-17 11:09:40 · update #2
Since she's being understanding about Tuesday. You definatly should not blow her party. This is her moment, and you should celebrate with her.You can't repeat a graduation party. Your friend should understand if he's a good friend. Unless you plan on taking her out somewhere extra special, just the two of you to celebrate to make it up to her. If you skip both then yes you are being selfish.
2007-06-17 11:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since she compromised with you on Tuesday and basketball, you should agree to not having your friend over when she has her graduation party. Just let your friend know that whatever day the graduation party is, is not a good day as you have plans.
2007-06-17 11:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this straight: You made a commitment to be there for your girlfriend's graduation AND party but you are thinking about skipping it to play basketball with your friends?
Are you stupid/retarded?
I don't care what your girlfriend said, you better go to that graduation and party or she will be hurt (and upset at you)!
Women are notorious for saying one thing but meaning another. She doesn't really want you to miss her graduation!
As for your friend, be honest with him! Tell him that you want to spend time with your girlfriend at the party and she is not comfortable being around him. Agree to meet up the next day or something.
2007-06-17 11:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by Matt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
one million goodluck w. the assessments i bear in mind those days! 2 additionally goodluck w. college .. means its no longer too a approaches off 3 dont stress too lots this is going to kill your sleep and merely no longer assist you 4 i one thousand% understand and understand the way you experience .. it sucks .. no you're no longer being egocentric .. - the regulation is the regulation and you cant replace it .. if its your motor vehicle or your mums it dosnt remember .. in case you get caught YOU get in complication ... so which you will desire to be quickly w. them .. tell them that's what it says .. so i certainly cant take the two considered one of you adult adult males b.c im no longer comfortable taking that probability ... you should look out on your destiny besides .. in case you mess that up its on your checklist for a at the same time as .. even with the undeniable fact that on an identical time it isnt that vast a deal as long as you nevertheless be a secure driving force ... its unlike your texting and driving or get into an twist of fate yet you may desire to talk on your mum .. and in step with probability the mummy of the lady
2016-12-13 05:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by lacuesta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋