With today being fathers day, and my first without my dad, does this day ever get easier???? I know that time heals but this is a very sad day for me, I know I am one of millions who are sad this day, but oh it hurts!!
2007-06-17 10:30:55 · 7 answers · asked by love the puppies 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry for you loss of a big time. Think of it this way for right now. Your Dad is looking down on you right not because he feels there is sorry in your life. Up in heaven, where everyday is happy, is unsettling to him because there's a pull coming from down below calling him. That is you. He is trying to comfort you by bringing positive thoughts into your mind of him and you. He will not leave and enjoy what he is doing in heaven until you can see this and let him go. Say, "happy fathers day pop" I love you to.
2007-06-17 10:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by nancie_usa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, bless your heart, I'm so sorry that you lost your dad. I lost my dad 2 years ago in April and I still miss him all the time. Today I'm focusing on my husband, but my mind still drifts back to my dad. Try to embrace the times that are special in your heart, your dad will know it, I'm sure he's with you and he knows how much you miss and love him.
As time passes, each Father's Day will be a bit easier for you. The first "everything" that you celebrate without him will be the most difficult...first birthday, holiday, special occasion without him will become a bit less painful as time goes on.
Try to focus on the gifts he left you, the greatest of all is his love for you and your love for him, and know that you will see him again. Although there are millions of people feeling the way you feel today, your feelings are special between you and your dad.
So sorry, Sweetheart.
2007-06-17 18:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by leslie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless you, yes/no it will go back and forth. As time heals memories can grow, and make the missing him pop up from time to time. So on this Father's Day visit his grave and take time to reflect on his life with you. Take joy in the blessed hope of seeing him again in heaven. Love is the fruit of the Sprite
2007-06-17 18:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by ardw7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pain does lessen with time. You will always remember and there will be times you will miss him more than others. But, that knot in your heart does get a little looser.
I am very sorry for your loss. Just remember that as important as grief is, it is no place to live. It is just a place we visit during certain sad times in our lives. It says in the book of Ecclesiastes (of the Bible) that there is a time to greive and a time to rejoice. For the first few holidays/birthdays, it will still be time to grieve - it is normal and OK.
2007-06-17 17:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by TroothBTold 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it does get easier. But just bec he is gone does not mean you can't celebrate it. Did he have a favorite food, or beverage, a favorite chair, or something that makes you think of him. Like, if he loved cold lemonade, then make yourself a large glass, go sit in his chair, and think of him while you drink it. My fav aunt loved popcorn, so I made a huge bowl, with lots of butter, and thought of all the fun I had with her while I ate "her" popcorn.
2007-06-17 17:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my sister a couple of years ago (nothing like losing a father). You feel like no one understands what you are going through. The only thing i can tell you is that god would not have this happen to you if you werent strong enough.
2007-06-17 17:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by Carma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear you. Mine has been gone 7 years now and I still miss him, but time makes it easier to deal with.
2007-06-17 17:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by Marty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋