I do love him. What should I do?????
2007-06-17 10:23:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sit him down and calmly tell him, "I love you. I would like to have you in my future, as my husband, along with our children. What do you see in our future?" Then give him time to think about it and respond. If he says that he just isn't ready yet then ask him when he will be ready. If he doesn't have an answer then tell him, "Then I guess we want different things. It breaks my heart but I think that we should stop seeing each other." Then you have to be willing to do just that. You cannot force someone to want to marry you and commit to you. If you continue on the way you have been in 10 years you'll be exactly where you are now. If that isn't what you want then talk it over and be willing to walk away and get a new life.
I hope everything works out for you, whether with this man or another one.
2007-06-17 10:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by Sage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means he has gotten used to you and now treat you like one of the boys.
this is a problem!
you need to change the routine. i bet your week is pretty predictable. and week after week its the same thing different date.
start doing new things.
i don't know how you get his attention again.
maybe one way is to lock up the well that he likes so much. make it a little more difficult for get it. not too difficult. but don't have it waiting for him.
very important: i am not suggesting that you shut him out completely. just enough to get his attention.
stop being one of the guys. be certain you are clean ans well groomed. become a little more femimine.
as i am writing this response.
i suspect it may be best to move on.
but you should also try a direct conversation. do not be confrontational. be heart to heart like lovers.
let me know that you feel he no longer have passionate feeling for you. that you do not feel like his girlfriend, more like just another person who knows him. like someone in the supermarket. let him know your are sad and disapppointed with relationship and the fact he does not give you attention or treat you like a sweetheat.
if he does not rush to pick you up, not literally, but by his confession of his love for you, it may be time to move on.
sooner or later we are alll subject to misguided relationships. naturally, you will feel terrible as you go through the withdrawal pain. we all go through withdrawal pain. you will too.
but for you dignity, integrity and self esteem, it will be a decision you must make.
we have all been hurt by the ending of a relationship. like you can't put light bulb shattered into little pieces back together, so you can't make a dead or dying relationship come to life if both parties are not feeling the same thing.
i hope when you speak to him he will tell you that he loves very much and how wrong you are. but i don't thing so.
profuse regrets if things do not work out.
if it does not, find a new guy somewhere outside you cicle of friends.
good luck
2007-06-17 18:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by ramni222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he won't commit then you are leaving, and you will not look back..5 years is a long time to wait for someone to love you.I bet you could get out, and find someone who will commit to you.
2007-06-17 17:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mary M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to carry on for another 5 years acting like his sis and him not commiting? If not I would talk to him tell him whats important to you and if it doesn't fit with him then you might have to move on. Good luck.
2007-06-17 17:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"COmmit" can mean so many different things. You say "boyfriend" but does that term mean different things to you and him, does he even call himself your bf? You guys need to talk about this. Find out what you both what out of the relationship, you can't change him, he can't change you, you might be able to compromise if you both love each other, but talking about it with each other will help a lot.
2007-06-17 17:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Cruisin'=^_^=Cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys love their freedom...they like doin guy things...they need "guy space".if a girl asks a guy to commit,he'll feel theres a loss of space.give him some time.ask him if he's serious about it,give him a lil space and some time to think it over.take some time apart and try and figure out wats best for you both...talk to him about it,tell him how you feel about him and how his making you feel with the way his acting...and in his own good time when he's ready he'll commit...just make sure u dont lose him...it sounds worthit...good luck!
2007-06-17 17:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know that you love him? Does he realize or have you told him that you are his girl friend? If yes, then he is just trying to tease you hunny. Believe me you won't find this kind of guy much often. Stick with him.
2007-06-17 17:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by Flying Soldier 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suggest that the two of you split up and start dating other people for a month.
2007-06-17 17:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he acts like you're his sister???..... that's kinda weird... you need to sit him down, and talk to him about it. some people would say, tell him to commit or you're going to leave. but. I don't know that that would work. but you can try it
2007-06-17 17:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he know how you feel? becuase maybe he feels the same way hes just afraid to tell you so if he doesnt know how you feel its probably best that you tell him and maybe it will be the best decision youve ever made but then again expect rejection and " i dont wanna ruin our friendship" it happens all the time
2007-06-17 17:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by patmoney892 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋