her bioyfriend who is 21 years old what do I do legally
2007-06-17 10:04:50 · 11 answers · asked by mand648 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Insist on NO. Tell her she is a minor. If he seems like big time trouble you may want to have charges brought against him. Talk to him first and warn him.
Sadly, they've probably already had sex, and girls at that age think they've found their true love no matter how disgusting or brutal he may treat them.
Better to put on a little tough love and pull in the reigns with her, but chances are it's too late for all that.
You risk her hating you if you do something and you risk God knows what if you let her do what she will...chances are you will have a great grand-daughter to deal with too, so warn her, and beyond that, hey, sometimes these kids have to learn the hard way life isn't all they expect.
You'd be better off encouraging her to go on birth control and at least avoiding the risk of her having a baby at such a young age.
Good luck.
2007-06-17 10:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the cops he is 21 and she is 15. She can see him after she turns 18. Don't be gutless, be a PARENT!She needs one.I know she has had a crappy life that doesn't entitle her not to have rules.
Here are some you need.
First the authorities are contacted on this pedophile
She isnt allowed to date
no private phone calls
no private computer time
No private time at her friends unless you know a responsible adult you RESPECT AND TRUST will be there and you see she gets there and you pick her up
No going to the mall to be dropped off with friends.
Any acts of rebellion results in the loss of any privileges she has left.
Tell her you love her and your doing this for her own good, or else you won't be just a grandma, but a GREAT grandma.
2007-06-17 10:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you? Nuts?!
YOU are the adult. YOU are the parent, or grandparent in this case. She has no say at all. She is a minor.
You need to grow a backbone and grow up. Start acting like an adult. If she goes and stays with the 21-year old then he can be arrested for statutory rape since she is underage. If that happens you NEED to follow through and press charges.
She obviously doesn't give a damn about him and cares more about rebelling, otherwise she would care what happens to him.
And don't get drawn into any argument with her. She is a child! This is not negotiable. As my parents used to say, "As long as you're living in our house, you have to go by our rules." We knew we couldn't pull any garbage. She is testing you and will test you again since obviously no one in her life has bothered to set down any limits. This is something you will have to keep after. You can't relax with kids. They have to be monitored and under adult supervision until they move out and can work at a job and support themselves.
2007-06-17 10:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Awww...I am so sorry you are going through this. Often times young people don't know how good they have it. You've been everything to this young girl and she can't see that. All we see when we are young are the lights, cameras, and action. It is when we are down and out that we actually look back and know that our family was there for us. Don't give up on her. Right now, this boyfriend is guilty of statutory rape. You need to talk to her again and then if she keeps insisting on this nonsense then report him. I know you hate to go through all of this, but you have to save her life, even if she's isn't smart enough to save her own. I wish I could talk to her because I've been that ignorant 15 year old before. Take care...you have to fight for her life!
2007-06-17 10:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally beat her butt. She is under age and too young, him you may want to put him behind bars he knows she is too young for him. She needs a good beat down long as she is under 18 you are responsible for her and if she get knocked up by him then you will have two babies to care for. She do not know what she is getting herself into at all. Watch her closely to make sure she is not having sex with him under 18 that is rape on his part cause she is under age.
2007-06-17 10:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her that if she moves out and in with him, you'll call the police and have her removed AND he'll be arrested for contributing to the delinquency of a child and go to prison. Then, follow up. In addition, she needs counseling. You would do well to call child protective services and ask for help for the child. It's your duty to protect her and moving in with the guy is dangerous.
2007-06-17 10:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she runs off with him, you can have him arrested. You are the adult and tell her that is exactly what you will do if she tries this. She will be responsible for him going to jail.
2007-06-17 10:10:32 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the police and press charges against him.
2007-06-17 10:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is too young to move out, and her boyfriend is too old for her. i wouldnt let her move out. see the police, but if they doing it he can get charged for carnal knowledge (sex with a minor)
2007-06-17 12:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Phone a lawyer.
2007-06-17 10:08:37 · answer #10 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋