We know the invites went out 2 months ago.. and now we just got ours.. im pretty skeptical about that... i really don't care to go.. my therory you should of invited us when you sent them out... what would you do?
2007-06-17 09:31:25 · 14 answers · asked by bunnyjw6 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
OOOOHHHH --- you are SOOOO right! This is what happened: the first round of invitations went out and the RSVPs weren't what the couple expected. They've already booked the venue and paid for the food, and they want to make sure it's not going to waste... PLUS, they want the wedding gift you're going to bring. I agree with you - if you're the 2nd string, don't go!
2007-06-17 09:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by tooblessed2doubt 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Ok well as bride on a tight budget I can understand this, it's not like an "A" list or "B" list, but there are people that I am more obliged to invite than others, like my parents, my brothers and their families and my aunties/uncles and grandparents. If they can't come it makes more room for my friends to come, I am tied to numbers as I am on a small budget, and I cannot afford to pay for more people to attend. In this kind of situation I would take a kindly view of it, perhaps they HAD to invite some people and there was simply not enough room, now that they have had some refusals they are able to invite other people. If you wanna take offence at this then that's your prerogative, but put yourself in their shoes, don't be harsh, some people cannot afford to pay for a huge wedding, and this is their only way of having everyone there that they love. I don't know, you can't win with weddings, if you have a big wedding people slate you for that, if you have a small wedding people slate you for that as well.
2007-06-17 22:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were on the B-list of people. If you feel thats an insult than do not attend.
Personally I wouldn't be insulted if I was on the B-list, but I would be getting an invitation 2 weeks before the wedding. Some people can only afford a certain amount of people at their wedding.
I had a friend who could only afford family at the reception, but I was told about this. If it was a good friend then they should have explained the situation to you, but if that was the case I would get over your hurt feelings and attend.
2007-06-17 12:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by no_frills 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with previous people that this shouldn't be taken as an insult.
I have an A list and a B list on my wedding. We both have big families so to include all our family and friends would be over 400 people! We don't have a huge wedding budget so there was no way to do that even if they are close friends without leaving out key immediate family members.
We sent out the A list to immediate family meaning parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, first cousins. (that alone was 200 people)
When the RSVP's came back there were about 30 who couldn't make it. We took the 30 and invited close friends off the B list hoping they would come.
It is not a personal shot against you that you got yours later but if you want to take it that way and don't want to go then don't. I would go simply because I understand how hard it is to balance sharing the day with everyone you want to share it with and not having to go into endless debt to do it.
2007-06-17 09:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Well go if you want or don't. The short notice was probably due to RSVP numbers. Sometimes when when a couple has a budget they send out invites then when the responses come back the go to the back up list of people they wanted to invite but had to save room for family. Don't take it as an insult I'm sure that's not the intention.
2007-06-17 09:38:52 · answer #5 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you. Personally I had a lot of cancellations and realized a bunch of people I had to cut for size and $$ considerations could have been invited. I didn't have the nerve to send out more invites a few weeks before the wedding though and left it as is.
2007-06-17 13:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by JM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, to be brutally honest, you were probably invited after the original guests RSVP'd. Rather than have any empty chair they invited you. If you don't care to go, don't go. Even though the invite was semi-rude, no one needs a person at their wedding that doesn't want to be there. Reply that you will not be attending and plan something else fabulous to do that night.
2007-06-17 09:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by alisha2550 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Suzy and Pop. If you don't like them as a couple then don't go. But if these are people that you care about and want to see start their lives together then go. You aren't the only people that got invited at the last minute and they want you there or they wouldn't have invited you at all.
2007-06-17 10:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go. I think B list invites, especially this close to the wedding date, are plain rude. If they cared about you, they would have sent the invitations out to make sure you would be at the wedding.
2007-06-17 15:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by newjerseygirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want to go to for other reasons, don't go, but if the only reason you have for sitting this one out is because your feelings got hurt that you didn't get a first round invite, that's petty. When I sent out my invites, I realized that I'd forgotten a few people, so they got theirs later. It didn't mean that they're less important to me.
2007-06-17 10:28:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋