I doubt I will, but my fiance and I were considering running off to get married because of the stress it's causing on us. (Ex: parents making plans without mentioning them to us, parents arguing over money issues, etc.) One drawback to running away is the non-refundable $300 I paid to book a photographer. Another is that although I'm sure it would be fun at the time, I think I would eventually regret it. I wouldn't have pictures and such to show others from our wedding or look back upon. If you ran away, let me know if you regretted it, or if you didn't run away but were considering it, tell me why you changed your mind. Thanks!
2007-06-17 09:25:18 · 8 answers · asked by jlg_jdf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I didn't exactly run away, but I did have a civil ceremony in the courthouse. My brother-in-law snapped a couple of pictures, then hubby and I were on the way to the honeymoon! My sister, her hubby, and my best friend were there. It cost us the amount of the license and one corsage and a boutonniere. My mother made my dress. Last week we celebrated our 33rd anniversary. I think I am going to plan a shindig of some sort for our 35th anniversary, complete with cutting the cake and flowers and all the stuff I didn't get to have the first time, but I can't say I regretted not having all that the first time.
If you are worried about the deposit for the photographer, ask him/her if they are willing to use that money and take some pictures of you at another time, either an engagement session or maybe after the wedding. It might depend on how far away the wedding date is. If it's just a few weeks away you may be out of luck. It would be hard for him to book another wedding. But if it's several months away, he might be willing to work with you. At any rate, peace of mind should be worth $300.
2007-06-17 12:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by Ara57 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you not want to share one of the most important days of your life with those that are close to you & love you??
Why would you & your fiance want to cheat your parents out of this? You may not even be on good terms with them but they are still your parents. And they have had dreams about you, your growing up & even your wedding; especially Mom.
Stop buying into what you read in those bridal magazines. You can actually have a wedding WITHOUT stress. You don't have to have 150 guests, linens & favors to get married.
You need a bride, groom, minister & a few family & friends. Here in Ohio, you don't even need witnesses anymore.
This can be a VERY intimate & enjoyable experience without a lot of fanfare, stress or expense.
And it's time that parents, exes, stepparents, etc, put their feelings in their back pockets for a few lousy hours so that their children CAN enjoy this special day.
2007-06-17 12:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For goodness sakes do not get married for at least a year. You will be 18 then and if you are at all smart, you could be working and saving your money so that you can pay for your own wedding. Perhaps if you show your Dad that you are responsible enough to save money for your own wedding, you will be have some kind of a happy marriage in the future. Sometimes our parents DO know more than we do as a teen-ager. Perhaps you will not want to be married in another year. You have not had time to really select a mate, and running off to get married is not the answer.
2016-05-18 00:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I regret having gone through the ceremony. What you quickly find is that a ceremony is designed for your family and guests -- NOT you and your fiance! The preparation for the event, the actual event and the after math is exhausting and over time, leaves little for your emotions or memory to cherish.
BELIEVE me, that after 24 years of marriage, my wife and I would have found the romance of running off together (by ourselves and without anyone telling us what to do or how to act) a much more memorable event.
2007-06-17 09:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do what you feel is right for the both of you no not your parents i mean its you two that are getting married and i mean do u want something big were everybody is all dressed up or do u want that moment were its just you and your man sharing that moment together. Plus you can save the money and have a big cermoney later on, so all i can say is dont cater to everybody else this moment is about you and your fiance.
2007-06-17 09:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by dodgers10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! I don't regret it, it was on a whim, we got up and just did it, although every one was upset, they got over it and we had a small intimate dinner with family,after. it was romantic. I was totally stressing on all the wedding plans and things just to do i also had paid deposits on lots of vender's, but didn't lose any thing, i did have about 7-8 months planning...but it felt great, no more stress...
2007-06-17 11:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by Beautiful Bee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have not run off to get married but I would think in your situation to do it, it would make it easier on you two. Yes, they will get mad at you and you might regret it BUT you can renew your vows in a big bash with the dress, reception everything on your 5 year and do it how YOU want because you two are already married!
2007-06-17 11:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by Heather D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would if it happened to me. In fact it just almost did, but we are still having a ceremony.
2007-06-17 09:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋