I am 14 and have never had a boyfriend before. I am kinda shy and I live in a small town. Sometimes I don't feel ready for a boyfriend. I really don't want a boyfriend right now. I am too busy with friends and family. I feel that I am abnormal because SO MANY girls want a boyfriend and they can't stop thinking about getting a boyfriend. Am I normal?? I do have alot of crushes but I don't want anything more. Were any of you like this at my age?? When was your first bf or gf?? Thanks.
2007-06-17 09:25:07 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it is. And I'm 16 and don't wanna date
I feel the same way since everyone is dating but, do we really need someone else to make us happy and cause extra stress if we're happy as we are? NO. Be independent .
2007-06-17 09:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by meep meep 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually I think your mature. All the 14 year old boy crazy girls running around consistently looking for boyfriends are stupid. There's no point are they actually going to be in a long term relationship at 14? No, they aren't going to get married or anything. It's not a big deal. I respect girls that have the maturity to wait a few years till they can actually have mature relationship.
It's just pointless when teenagers have a new boyfriend/girlfriend with every new week. And this is coming from a 18 year old, It hasn't been very long since I've been there. Good luck
2007-06-17 09:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by John 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope, not unnormal - you just might have more control over your hormones than the other girls.
You hit the nail on the head - you are too busy with friends and family. You're just don't feel ready for one. Put yourself first - I had a boyfriend fall into my lap at age 14 (not something I really wanted, but his friend and my friend wanted to date and were not allowed to go anywhere by themselves... so we kind of formed a couple so they could date), and I kind of wished he would have gone away a lot earlier than he actually did. I actually decided to swear off dating when I was 19... only to meet my future husband a month later. It's amazing that you find someone when you are not looking for them.
You have plenty of time ahead. If having a boyfriend at age 14 does not fit with what you want, then don't have one. Put yourself first. You are not a "late bloomer" or anything like that - you just have your head firmly attached to your shoulders. You admit that you have crushes, so if you are worried that you may be a lesbian, I wouldn't worry about it. You are attacted to guys... you just don't want to pursue anything. Just keep doing what you are doing. If you want to eventually find a guy who shares your interests, the only way to do that is to develop your own interests... and 14 seems to be the perfect age to really understand what it is that you like and don't like.
Yes, you are normal.
2007-06-17 09:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you are not ready for a boyfriend, then you are not ready, you are only 14, you have your whole life ahead of you.
Do not be so hard on yourself. You will know, believe me when the time is right!
Keeping yourself busy with friends and family is the best thing, it is a lot better than keeping yourself busy with a guy and having to worry about protection.
Honey, you are so normal! You have a wonderful head on your shoulders, and you just hold your head up high, and listen to your heart and your mind and do not subject yourself to peer pressure! Just keep being your wonderful self!
I was totally that at your age, and you are totally normal, I did not start being interested in guys until I was 16! Every girl matures and grows at her own pace, there is nothing wrong with you!
You have a wonderful head on your shoulders and a wonderful mind and lots of self confidence!!!!!
Keep it that way!!
You have your whole life ahead of you!
Enjoy it!!!
2007-06-17 09:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I'm okay with being single right now, and I'm 14. Every girl our age stresses over wanting to have a boyfriend, but we cant let boys rule our life. I've never had a boyfriend, all the popular girls in my school get all the boys, but whatever, they just dont reach high enough up the tree. Dont worry if your not into having a boyfriend right now. Just focus on what matters to you the most right now.
2007-06-17 09:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by ♥MsCullen♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Off course that's normal. It is actually refreshing to hear that there are still teenager your age, that is not rushing to grow up so fast.
You should actually be proud, that you are enjoying youth. I had my first boyfriend when I was 18 years old, but I did not grow up here either. Family & friends should always take presidence in your life. Do not fall into the "peer pressure" trap, when you get to be a little older & wiser, you will be glad that you did not rush into having a boyfriend. At your age, you just have to enjoy life, focus on school & have fun. When you get older, life tends to a little more complicated. I wouldn't mind being 14 again to tell you the truth. So, Live life to the fullest & enjoy !!!! My motto "LIFE IS SHORT, LEARN TO ENJOY & LIVE IT !!!
2007-06-17 09:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by always51787 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I did get my first real GF until I was 15 although I remember having crushes as early as 5 or 6.
You are fine. You want what you want and the choice is always yours. Don't ever feel like you have to want something just to fit in. You obviously think for yourself and you should be proud of that. So while you are getting your degree and all your friends that are boycrazy are having their kids with no dad, you can look back on this time and think of how lucky you are not to be sidetracked by that stuff.
2007-06-17 09:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by J D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is normal? What's normal for others may not be normal for you. If you don't feel ready then you should wait. I think most people start dating too soon anyway. They would do so much better in school etc. if they waited till later. There's plenty of time for dating later. You're 14. It's not like you are old enough for marriage or anything. In my opinion most teen dating is a waste of time.
2007-06-17 09:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by BERT 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what is normal. It's what you feel comfortable with. Not every 14 year oldf wants a boyfriend and thank god for that. People want different things at different ages and life also isn't consistant. one day you might want a boyfriend and the next day you don't. If you compare yourself to others, you will never be happy. Don't let others be your compass
2007-06-17 09:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by Tofu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its ok not to want a boyfriend at any age. Sometimes its just not the right time or you haven't met anyone that you would want to date. my first boyfriend was when i was about 13 but I've only been seriously dating since i met my current boyfriend a few months ago. I'm 15 btw. at least if you decide that you do want to date someone you will know that it is because you want to date them and not just because yo want a boyfriend whoever they are. there is nothing abnormal about that : )
2007-06-17 09:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by Abi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal you don't have to have a boyfriend at your age you need to focus on your school work and what you want to be when you get older. Remember that you have your whole life for a boyfriend but not your whole life to make something out of yourself. School,friends,and family is all you really need right now.
2007-06-17 09:30:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋