My fiancee of 2 years is a photographer. During the latter part of our relationship, we've been having a lot of trust issues. Started with him (texting and emailing ex-girlfriends, friends and past clients) in a graphic sexual nature. I found out and I admit I dug up some old friends and did the same (tit for tat)...I admit, I wrong. We talked, cried, yelled and decided to move forward. One chick in particular, left a huge thorn in my side. Seems like she had a special "hold" on him, like he just couldn't leave her alone and HAD to talk to her. I found out that she had sent him some graphic sexual photos and we had it out again. A month passed, and one day before we had a show to do, he got up EARLY, like 8am to email her just to say "Hey" and tell her that he had a show to do. Fight again. Thought that was the end of it. Well, Friday, we had a scheduled shoot at 1pm. He went to the store to get some photos developed at 10:30, he says the girl called him then and said she wanted to
2007-06-17 09:07:32 · 12 answers · asked by monique718 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
take some pics outside b/c her b-day was coming up this week. He left the store and drove 15 min. away to snap 6 photos (she only picked 2, he charged $20). Mind you, we had a photo shoot at our studio 30 min away. He knows that I'm uncomfortable with this girl, she has told him that she likes him. I felt like he was going or went somewhere when he left and got back, but he told me that he didn't and was a little irate. He finally told me the truth today about what happened. Do you think I'm overreacting? Do you think he was justified? Take note that I always go on photo shoots and he did do a shoot for her on her son's b-day, I was there for that, but at the time I did not know she liked him...I had my suspicions though. She also knows that (he told her) I don't care for her. I know that I can't stop anyone from doing anything and am not trying, but I just told him that by going over there without me, was feeding fuel to the fire. What do you think? Serious answers please.
Thanks.
2007-06-17 09:15:03 · update #1
I know a lot of women think men are like kids in a candy store, but we are capable and more than willing to honor our commitments once we've made them. The fact is, there are two types of people in this world irrespective of their genders: loyal ones and disloyal ones. Your boyfriend may not have cheated yet, but he's tap-dancing on that line so much it seems to be only a matter of time. A guy who values your relationship would not have allowed things to progress nearly this far. You may want to wait until the hammer falls so you won't appear to have left preemptively (before something happened), or you may just say enough's enough and bounce now. The choice is yours. But whichever you choose, the situation is about to develop significantly with or without you in the very near future. Good luck to you.
2007-06-17 09:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on!
First off, you got angry at him and did the same thing in retaliation (at least you knew you were wrong) but I think he did too (both need to grow up).
Secondly, I understand the ex having a hold but if he was serious about what you have, he would have thrown away her # after the first fight. 2, 3 ,4 times......sexual photos? You need to move on because she is the only thing running through his mind!
Good luck
2007-06-17 16:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Tucker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not your husband, therefore he has not promised to be committed to you. Thankfully you are not married to him and have to find out he is a cheating dog.
He isn't the right one for you, move on and find someone who is single and wants to be committed to you and make the court ship long and find out as much as you can about the person and don't give yourself to them until you are at your wedding night. He has already proven he doesn't respect you and has killed any trust that may have been there.
2007-06-17 16:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times is he going to have to lie to you or contact this chick before you understand what's going on here??? If he loved and respected you, he would leave her alone - not talk to her in any way. He's obviously not willing to do that, so he's made his decision. Your needs and wishes don't rank too highly with him. Is that the type of person you want to be with?? If a person screws you over once, shame on them. If they screw you over twice, shame on YOU!
2007-06-17 16:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by tooblessed2doubt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You chose to be with a photographer and whith that comes a lifestyle to match. Lots of women, and attractive ones at that.
It's up to you to make up your mind. Can you handle this?
You can't live in this stress forever.
Are you enjoying these silly games? If yes, then stay. If not, then it's time to look for a relationship with someone else.
Good luck.
2007-06-17 16:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry, but I think it's time for you to move on. He can't leave her alone, and even if he says he will, he's proven to be untrustworthy. It's better you end it now than get married to a two-timer.
2007-06-17 16:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by Winnie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to us listen to your heart girl. In the end whatever happens you will have yourself no one else. Even if you make the wrong decision (whatever that is) it will be life lesson learned and it will be to your gain in the end. Besides, than, only than will you have no regrets. Because all you did was follow your heart and it was cool when you did it :)
2007-06-17 16:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your "fiancee" will cheat if he hasn't already. He's keeping his options open for it. He's no good. Move on.
2007-06-17 16:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you like fighting with him? He isn't going to change, so if you don't like fighting, I suggest you say goodbye.
2007-06-17 16:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him quick....you will never be able to trust him if it is already an issue
2007-06-17 16:13:19 · answer #10 · answered by bethybug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋