Im a jehovah witness and was touched and i dont no who to tell?

Question

Im scared because i went out in field servece and a bother asked if i could go with him but i didnt want to buy my mom and dad said yes. We knocked on the doors for a while but then he took me in his car and drove somewhere empty. He talked to me and start touching my private parts. I was too scared to tell my parents so i told the only elder outside but nothing happen and he just said okay. I dont want to go to the hall and i feel bad becase the bother is there and he looks at me. I no its not my falut but im to enbarassed to tell my mom. why didnt br Bagley stop him? Im so scared im gonna get in troubel for being on here

Answer 1

since that "elder" did nothing, tell your parents.

if they do not do anything either, tell his parents, or the police.

Answer 2

It's OK to be afraid. This guy is scary, and an Elder not "helping" is also scary.
It's Ok to feel embarassed. This is a bad situation a lot of people don't have the courage to EVER face.

But none of it is your fault, So be BRAVE, tell your parents what You typed here. If they do not listen or belive You, Tell the Presiding Overseer. If He does not, then tell the Circuit Overseer when He visits.

Also, The Elder You told will have to meet with the other Elders and discuss it. They may ask Your parents if they know anything about it (that's another good reason to tell them). So He may be doing these things and just hasn't told you.

Also, Elders are not required by LAW (just like Priests do not have to report confessionals) to report this matter, BUT they are REQUIRED by the Governing Body to report ANYTHING like this to the Police and any other "proper authorities", regardless of how many "witnesses" there are or the "validity" they feel the accuser has. NOT reporting it will result in thier being removed as Elder when it is found out.

Answer 3

that is not a true elder hes tricked the whole congregation
you are a young girl and that means a lot to all brothers and sisters nobody will find out if you tell, it will stay private and you wont have to be embraced ....do not go on the field service for a while
..your body is a very special thing so are your feelings
now realise it may feel as though your challenging bethel but your not it is your duty and right as a girl and a witness to point out the wolf amongst the sheep my little sister you are the sheep and nobody will ever in a million years think of you as anything other than true and Innocent,now you must trust in Jehovah.
you could even just show this page to your parents I'm very sure they will see and show you that your actions and feelings are very sound and valid .personally i cant wait for this pain your in to end ..if you want to keep it quiet i can understand but i think you've been so brave already it will be a case of accepting the facts and letting you mom and dad know they will believe you I'm so sure try to remember you did nothing but trust in someone who wasn't trustworthy ...and just if youre thinking that the involvement of police is a worldy mater remember this true witnesses do not abuse children you must tell ...................

my prayers are with you

Answer 4

I am Jehovah's Witness and I have been through what you have been through I feel that you should tell your parents and do what is necessary. If they choose to go to the police, GREAT, that is what they should do and you should get counseling to help with the repercussions. I am currently a regular pioneer and although the brothers in the congregation (where i use to serve) did nothing to the brother that hurt my sons It was Jehovah that gave me justice and blessed us. My children do not remember what happened to them, they got the counseling they need and are currently serving as auxillary pioneers in the congregation(i go to a different one now) The brother that did that horrible thing no longer attends meetings and disapeared. Whatever you do, please don't stop serving Jehovah. That is where our hope and our help is. I wish there was a way i could talk to you futher but i believe the Yahoo Community Guidelines discourage you from further contact. I don't know.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, these things happen even in Jehovah's Organization. However, when these sorts of things happen, your only mistake was going on here and reporting it. The matter must remain private. Then mentioning the elder's name on the Internet on "blast," if you will, also did not help matters.

You must tell your parents NOW! If you do not and you tell the elders, guess what? They will tell your parents the situation. Why not relieve yourself by telling them yourself. If not, then when the elders tell them, your parents will say, "why didn't you tell me this?" Say something now WHILE THE SITUATION IS STILL FRESH to those you told before new thoughts come into their mind and end up twisting the story.

Tell your elders. Their role is to shepherd the flock. Yes, to protect the flock. We just had a Watchtower Lesson on the responsibility of elders within the last four weeks.

Talk to an elder that you feel comfortable with and will keep the matter confidential and not release info to the rest of the flock. They will likely have to meet with you, the perpetrator and your parents. The elders will want to know how did all of this start. You will have to be honest and say who recommended you to work with this particular brother in service. You denied. Your parents overruled your decision. Then proceed with what took place. Speak the truth, leave no facts out. Do not dramatize the situation. I am not saying that you are lying, but I just do not want you to be disciplined by the congregation because of dramatizing what happened. Be free from accusation. Be SPECIFIC to the elders and your parents where you were touched.

You will have to be bold and say all of this in a room with elders, your parents, those you told and the perpetrator.

Note: This is a serious issue. You are talking about sexual harrassment/assault/misconduct. This could result in disciplinary action.

This is why it is recommended that brothers work with brothers and sisters with sisters, because these things can happen. Age does not even matter. Things happen. You could have been raped out there or worse. Thank Jehovah that you were not.

Do not stop going to the meetings! Go to the hall, do not look at the perpetrator. If he approaches you, go the other direction. Be discreet about it. The friends will notice that something is off if you show in your body language that you are uncomfortable with him near you. Make sure that you are not isolated in the main hall or anywhere there where he can corner you. Be in a crowd. Be around the friends.

Once you arrive at the hall for one of your next meeting, seek one or more of the elders and tell them privately what happened. Your parents should already know before you enter the Hall for your next meeting. Because the elders will ask if you told your parents.

The Branch Office may or may not write a letter to the congregations (if not in a future Kingdom Ministry) regarding spreading an incident in a local congregation on the internet.

In fact, for your protection, I would take down this question from the internet so it is not exposed to the whole world and just let your local elders deal with the situation. Plus, I noticed that you have some worldly opinions with garbage answers. I am writing to you as if we were best friends from a neighboring congregation of Jehovah's Witnesses. You elders may or may not go to the branch or bring the circuit overseer to your congregation. I will not spread this info to the friends in my congregation, for it is none of their business.

I am not sure how things will turn out, but you can guarantee yourself that Jehovah will straighten things out. Don't forget about the power or prayer to Jehovah.

Answer 6

hay little sister,I'm sorry that this has happened to you, if he is a brother or not,and you did not want him to touch you, tell your parents, tell more elders, and I'm sorry but what he did was against the law, call the POLICE, especially, if you are under the age of 18 years old, if he did this to you, then he might do this to someone else, and your not going to be in trouble, this is not tolerated in the congregation, and will be taken care of, call the branch office, this brother is in the wrong and will most likely be disfellowshiped, DON'T keep this a secret, OK, you know even the bible Say's that sometimes there would be wolfs dressed in sheep's clothing, and this is a situation like that, hang in there and defiantly draw close to Jehovah rite know, he will make shore this will be taken care of, and you know that as Jehovah's witnesses, we all are supposed to follow the law, this brother has broken the law, and this action he took,so wrong, this is only for married people, and he knows that, so you need to tell, OK sweedy. '~'..... i 'm a Jehovah's witness to& and i am not ok with what this brother did to you.
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*EDIT: I have been keeping watch on this question, and like to say that, these things don't just happen in reilgoin, it get's more atention in religon, of course, these thing's happen anywere and everywere, i'm a witness now,and have been for 6 year's, but when i was a small child, my family was not religous at all,i was tought there was a God, and we should be good, thats it, nothing else,to my point, a situation happend in my none religous family, were me and my sister, were abused,by a close family member,so what i'm trying to say, is it doesn't matter religous or not , child molester's are everywere, they are your neihbor's, they work in the store's, there,in church's there in the comunity, most sick people like this, fool people, you don't know until it's to late,but they do like to put themself's with the young & inesint, so remember that, and this sicko did just that,and he put himself omong the witnesses, know he need's to go to prision, the police should alway's be called, that's the way it work's everywere, so amber it's in your hand's go done to the police station,and press charges,when poeple brake the law, there are consaquinses to be piad, and jehovah's witnesses agree with that, when you know what is wrong and you do it anyway's it is a sin, he has sined,he's broken the law,so get off the anwser's and take action. P.S. the spell check isn't working and i'm not getting the dictioary, so, sorry about any misspelled word's.

Answer 7

Tell your parents,I too am a witness and my uncle was an elder and he did the same thing to me. Hold your head up high its not your fault,jehovah knows and your parents too will understand what happened. If the elders in the conregation do nothing take the next step write to the branch office or get the curciut overseers number and call him, by all means dont forget to pray jehovah knows what you ar currently going through. your not going to get in trouble i thought the same thing it was a hard expreience and it takes time but you have to know its not your fault. I too will pray for you. Please dont stop going to the meetings Satan wants that to happen have faith and dont give up. even though I dont know you your are my sister and i have love for you. best wishes.

Answer 8

I am so sorry that you had to go through an experience like that. However as has already been mentioned, you need to tell some one. If not for yourself at least for the other people that may have or might fall victim to that man's perverse ways. The man who said it was ok in my opinion is just as guilty as the one who sexually molested you. If you cannot go to your parents then go to the police, or a school councilor, or someone in authority that you may know, but go to some one and please do not let the issue drop until you can find a way to get the problem resolved.
You have my prayers.

Answer 9

Young JWs who are abused are encouraged to tell their parents what has happened. It is your right to go the police. If the first elder didn't say anything to you, that is not right. Go to the other elders in the congregation with your parents. Don't be afraid, otherwise that person can do it again. If the elders can't do anything because there are no other witnesses, it is up to you if you want to go to the police.

And don't be embarasssed to tell your parents, that is their responsibility too, to protect you.

Answer 10

its not fair for you to have to carry this burden and be put in this position of discomfort, fear, and stress.
You can STOP him from doing this to you again and others!
He has VIOLATED his trust with you and his trust within the church
This guy has probably done this to many others and will continue if he is not stopped. Please report him.
3 out 4 people have been molested and/or sexually assaulted. It has a sustaining impact on a persons life. Its up to the innocent victims of this horrid crime to STOP the trend. Lets make this common threat obsolete!
You are innocent! Tell your parents! Tell the police! Report him to all the elders! Don't stand to be ignored!
I corinthians 6 speaks about rebuking a brother who violates the temple of God which is our bodies.

Answer 11

The fact that brother Bagley (is that his name, hon?) hasn't done anything is proof that you need to seek help elsewhere. I'm assuming you have a good relationship with your parents, so I'm going to suggest you tell your mom, even if it is embarrassing. Sometime, when nobody is around, ask her to talk and tell her, "Mom, I was sexually harassed by -whatever his name was-. It was a while ago when we were going door to door but I was embarrassed to tell you. I told brother Bagley but all he said was 'okay'." Or something along those lines.