I have a really screwed up situation.
A few days ago, best friend, whom I've known for 10 years, asked me to set-up a date with a guy friend, whom I've personally known and mentored for 7 years. I agreed to help her because she's really shy around guys.
Before I could arrange the date, I went on a blind date that was arranged by my best friend's brother. And guess who was my blind date? The guy who I've mentored for the last several years! Do I love him? Yes, because he's the first guy I've met who is not a chauvanistic idiot like all the other men I've dated. He doesn't see me as a trophy. Plus, we have the same interests and stuff.
The only problem I have with going to the next level is the fact my friend really loves him, AND she trusted me to set up a date between her and him. I told this guy about the situation and how she feels about him.
Both this guy and my friend have been with me through thick and thin. I don't want to lose either of them! Please help!
2007-06-17 08:34:59 · 9 answers · asked by Curious Student 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh my !, Talk about a classic "murphy"s law situation" sounds like you don"t want to lose her for him or him for her so just let the guy decide and your friend will know it was his choice ! That or move ! ha ha
2007-06-17 08:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... you have a common problem that occirs amongst most friends. It is first of all not your fault that you have feelings for him, this is called Sex Appeal and at one point everyone feels it. As for you and your friend... you did not purposly go out with him to make her jealous so. Just tell her the truth. If she gets angry at something as stupid as that... maybe she is not a true friend. As for this boy... if you really both have feelings for each other go for it, just don't rub it in your friends face. Good Luck
Dani
2007-06-17 15:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur friend the situation. explain that u like him but that u didn't know u did and u only found out because of a blind date. she might be p.issed but if she's as gd a friend as u think she is, she won't let any guy get between u
2007-06-17 15:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it out with your friend. I mean you can't make him love her and she needs to know that. If she is your friend she will get pissed but she will understand (plenty of fish in the sea). The guy needs to realize that its a tender situation and you need to talk to him about that too. Don't flaunt it near her, like don't date him and mention it unless she brings it up stuff like that.
2007-06-17 15:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she never dated him you did not steal him away you need to sit down and talk to her tell her what happened if she cannot handle it she is not being a friend you did not date him out of spite and you needed a nudge in the relationship I know it is so hard have a good week and great summer
2007-06-17 15:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just tell the guy that you think he's great or whatever but that you don't want to end a good relationship with either one of them. And if he gets upset, let him go!
2007-06-17 15:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by B.E.A.Bootiful Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry!! i don't know what to tell you...just kind of hold off for a bit & maybe something will get sorted out...just try to stay at friendship level right now & then maybe she will relaize he is into you & not her & all will go well good luck
2007-06-17 15:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by yahooligan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the truth. If you tell your friend the truth you'll find out if she's truly a friend
2007-06-17 15:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by J B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him he is annoying.
2007-06-17 15:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by Ryu H 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋