I have been dating my bf for almost a year now and I love him to death!!! I have been in relationships before where I was "in love" but nothing like this. Well, he is European (and muslim) and he has a completely different culture than me. Sometimes he treats me like a princess and tells me all the things I want to hear, but a greater percentage of the time he is talking down to me (such as pulling all the bad things out of my past and throwing them in my face) or just calling me stupid or immature when he knows im not perfect and dont like to be called those names. Its just plain and simple: rude. Well ive tried to talk to him about it several several times (every time we fight). He tells me he'll try harder to respect me and he's "sorry". Well, for a while now Ive just been dealing with it but lately im not sure if i want to stick around for that kind of verbal abuse anymore... Once again hes a great guy and someone who I would totally consider marrying other than this one issue. ???
2007-06-17 08:19:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
AT you love your bf and that's admirable but you have to love yourself more. What you are doing right now is loosing yourself in order to keep him. Set your boundaries, draw the line on what you will not accept from him. He will respect you and love you more for it. Righ now the fact that you are letting him treat you the way that he does shows that you do not respect yourself or take yourself seriously enough to say I am not gabbage, i might have done some bad things in the past but it is not ok for you or anyone (including myself) to judge me negatively. AT, you have done and are a lot of positive things and if your bf doesn't notice and appreciate that side of you, trust me on this one, YOU NEED TO TELL HIM TO TAKE A HIKE.
Yes you have been together for a year and you love him. I get that but you need to love yourself more. Plus, the truth is that if you continue to allow him to disrespect you, he will take you for granted and if some more respectable woman falls for him, he will trade up. So be the awesome person that you are and don't let that awesome side of you die for the love of a man
2007-06-17 08:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by uz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is how you're being treated now, it will certainly worsen if (God forbid) you were to marry this man. What is it you love, anyway ( and with "all your heart" no less)? The small percentage of time he treats you like a human being? You can love anyone, but loving someone should improve your life, not tear you down. Don't you agree? He's comfortable denegrating you right now, so what's going to make this situation improve? Your telling him you don't like it? He knows you don't like it, and he just doesn't care. If you deepen this relationship as it now stands, you will know more pain in a short period of time, than many people know in a lifetime because all of the signs are already in place. I hope you can hear me. Good luck to you.
2007-06-17 08:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are not getting the respect that you deserve it only shows how much that person really cares about you, and in this case very little. Remember this, small things tend to develop into very big things, so before you start considering marrying this guy make sure you have your (T's) and (I's) dotted.
2007-06-17 08:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time with this fool. I believe that the most important thing after love that I ask of my partner is respect. He can show me respect, than our relationship is a waste of time. I love myself too much to let someone abuse me. LOVE YOURSELF AND LEAVE!!!!!
2007-06-17 08:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he must understand that nobody is perfect and even he haves some defects.you can give him a lesson...put him to do something that u know that he can do it...maybe he will understand that he's not perfect...or u can try others things.don't give up so easy...but if he refuse to accept u like u are....forget about him....
2007-06-17 08:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a jerk. that has nothing to do w/ culture or religion. that is abuse. don't be in an abusive relationship. how is he a great guy who just happens to abuse you?
2007-06-17 08:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him plain & simple cause verbal could turn into physical
2007-06-17 08:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by Just here 2 help 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋