Taking ex.bf moms advice?

Question

I am 21 yrs old still in college(parents pay) work part time $288 week been married 3.7 months he filed for divorce.Long story short we took 4 month break before marriage(his idea) i had a fling w/ex.bf and got married unaware i was pregnant w/ ex.bf child.I only get 6 grand from selling town house and a check for 450 dollars for furniture hubby took.My parent refuse to help me at this time they are at their summer home dont want to be bothered . My dad said i had to show i was trying to help myself before he helped me.I told my ex.bf of situation and he has been pay for stuff helping out ect.but he has no plan on what we are going to do his mom says unless its an emergency she does not want a newborn in her home she already did this once for her eldest daughter.
One of my aunts owns a house flip in their town and is willing to rent it out to me for lower cost first 4months.Only issue is town has shady rep my ex.bf lives their thinks same thing.
Ex.bf mom thinks we should go for it?

She also thinks we should live together even if we are not together for first few months to make night calls with baby easier.My ex.bf has agreed he wants to move in but wants to try dating getting to know me again before having relationship with me?

Answer 1

I agree with person above. I had a child young but I the support you are lacking. There are many couples out there that would be wonderful parents.

Good luck. May God bless you.

Answer 2

Whoa........slow down. You are kids in high school right now. Your love for her will not change, right? So, that love will be there when she becomes an adult, right? Okay, then. At that time, when you are both adults, you can marry without her mom's consent. In the mean while, you and your girl should put the idea of marriage to rest for the sake of keeping peace with her mother. Sure, talk about it among yourselves and plan your goals. But, her mom need not know about them for now, right? Of course her mother is against her daughter being a teenage bride. She wants her daughter to grow up a bit and, I do not blame her. And, that is exactly what you will be planning for. So, by then, your girlfriend can do whatever she wants without permission because she will be an adult. Now, please relax a bit. Bank as much money as you can. Get that education you are after. Get your degrees. By the time a few years rolls around, you can get married and begin your lives together. So, you see, time will change things, so give it time.

Answer 3

If you dont want to be with youe ex then dont be! Trying to be with someone for the sake of the child doesnt work! i no people that have tried it and have broke up.
There is no reason you cant do this alone? Im 21 and at uni and going to be a single mum, there are so many people out there to help you. If you want to give it a go with your ex then i agree going out and getting to know each other again would be a good idea, but dont rush into being with him just because your pregnant xx

Answer 4

Take the lower rental from your Aunt. With him being there I think you would feel safe, if not, you can try to get help with low income housing.
Maybe you and ex were meant to be together and the baby is bringing you back together. good luck

Answer 5

Go for it girl!!!!!!! Everyone makes mistakes, just dont keep making them-ok. The most important thing now is the child.. If he wants to be there for you and the child AND try to make the relationship between you two work, do it!! What the hell!!!!!!

Answer 6

I think you should go with the rental at the lower cost. This should help you get on your feet. In the mean time you should see if you qualify for foodstamps and WIC.

http://www.fns.usda.gov/wic/

Answer 7

rent the house and grow up some

Answer 8

Look into adoption or get your life together.

Your life is too messy to be bringing a child into the situation.