I was with this guy for a couple of years. We lived together as if married. One day I came home to find out that my home wasnt my home anymore. He took away the only thing I had , my whole life was devoted to him and my kids. I left his sorry butt and he has made my life HELL everysince. Is it worng to want him to pay for the destruction of my life? And for him not getting the picture that love don"t live here no more? He will never feel the way I do ...... I just want him to feel my anger, hate, despaire, sorrow.....!
2007-06-17 07:54:36 · 16 answers · asked by kitty69freak 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just my opinion, but when you seek revenge, you are just letting the anger get the best of you and destroy you further. I don't blame you for wanting it, but the best revenge is to do your best to move on and rebuild your life and be happy. He sounds like an #$@, so he probably likes your anger. Showing him you don't need his sorry butt and truly making a life for yourself and moving on, will be the sweetest revenge and the healthiest thing for yourself. He clearly didn't put any thought into you in the end, so don't give him any more control over your life. You will just be hurting yourself physically and mentally. You are worth more than that and so are your kids. If you can't rebuild on your own, perhaps therapy would be a good solution. A lot of insurance companies pay for therapy. If that isn't an option, most states have a sliding fee scale for services. Think of yourself and don't give him an ounce more of your energy. He isn't worth it.
2007-06-17 08:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by shoegal0675 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie calm your self down, ok? first of all, God treats you like this because of the fact He needed to aim you whether you're good or not, whether you could proceed this life along with his painful try or not. the sea won't look so super if it would not have the waves actual? Too calm and stable... even the fishes will become bored with it. you're tortured in the beginning, then in case you attempt to be good and once you're making it by, you will appreciate your life much greater. undergo in concepts, each undesirable issues that happened to you in many cases have something good it somewhat is hidden, purely waiting which you will gain it. Revenge is what anybody will do, yet have faith me, it purely prove to worsen.
2016-12-08 11:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake was living with the guy and not being married to him. There was no commitment in the relationship.
You will never be happy as long as you carry all that resentment towards him. You have to forgive him and move on. Make better decisions. Be there for your children. They lost their dad to desertion and their mom to hate and resentment. Stop feeling sorry about something that is over and make a new life. Not easy to do, but well worth it for you and your children.
2007-06-17 08:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow now I know why my ex-gf is being so cruel to me. Bitterness and revenge are not a good thing at all. Causing someone else pain does not make you a good or better person. Learn to forgive. Then move on with your life. You do not need to be spiteful to get revenge. Become a stronger and better person. Stop being so mean and resentful. I am sorry he hurt you so bad, but 2 wrongs do not make a right.
2007-06-17 07:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't dare say you're "wrong" to want revenge. It's a normal feeling.
The real questions are, (1) what good can come of revenge, and (2) what's revenge going to cost both your soul and the positive opportunities that could come along if you weren't pre-occupied by revenge.
Maturity is painful. No way around it. The choices are yours. Just be prepared to accept the consequences.
All of the above is not said to be ugly, but to put before your eyes that revenge exacts a terrible cost ON BOTH PARTIES!
Good luck.
2007-06-17 08:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by innerbanks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your life better than his, that is the altimate revenge, act like it doesnt bother you and after a while it wont. He didnt ruin your whole life hes gone now the only one that has control of it now is you, if you dont do it for yourself do it for your kids. Show them in life you dont have to completely depend on someone otherwise they will feel thats the only way they will get through life is letting someone else control it.
2007-06-17 08:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by deedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember one thing you chose him... One question, if you two were living in a house, or condo that being purchased (not apt, etc) , was only his name on the deed & not yours? If so he can pretty much do what he wants. However if both of your names are on it & he kicked you out, I would probably go & see a real estate attorney.
For the revenge part, like others say I probably wouldn't go to his level & not to also, it could backfire on you.
2007-06-17 08:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
What your feelin is normal but we have to rise above it...your best revenge if you like will to be happy without him...trust me as a guy we HATE the LOL !!!
Time will heal your hurt for you but don't try makin him hurt it will only hurt you more for the short happiness it gives you move onward and upward!!!
How do i know my ex did same to me and tryin in everyway to prove what i've lost... and i not the one who did wrong but feels like it
2007-06-17 08:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell are you talking about? "My home wasn't my home anymore". He stole your house? Cheated on you? Locked you out?
WTF, he's now stalking you and you haven't called the cops?!
Sorry but you're just not giving us the whole story here.
2007-06-17 07:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know that it hurt but Forgive him god will take care of him 2 wrong don't make a right.
2007-06-17 07:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by Lady J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋