It's something that has cropped up in my mind. Will we ever know?
2007-06-17 07:37:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I mean, it certainly wouldn't be pleasant to know that it isn't really my father in the ashes pot..
2007-06-17 07:42:50 · update #1
Yes it does matter. Would you think it matters if it was not your loved one? I think yes!
2007-06-17 07:58:38 · update #2
Actually not in reality they are a mixture of many remains.
2007-06-17 07:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by Fluffy Wisdom 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Does it matter? I know that sounds crass, but really your loved one is no longer physically here, and one bit of carbon or another.....
Last Fathers Day I lost my father. His ashes now reside in a box on my sideboard (macabre, I know but we are all still deciding where to lay them to rest). To my mind the remains are just a focus point, somewhere we can look and remember the person they used to be.
I am not explaining this very well, my apologies. If somebody is buried, one visits a grave. Over time the body is borne away by microbes, bugs, worms, etc. The focal point is not be body, but the gravestone. To my mind, the same is true of an urn of ashes. The focus is the urn, not the contents.
2007-06-17 07:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother and father were both cremated and even though I know there are some funeral homes that aren't honorable, I don't worry about their ashes. The physical body is temporary for all of us and what we remember visually but what was most important is their soul and who they were as a person. Since no one can tamper with the soul once the person dies, I don't worry about what was once their physical body. And there isn't anything one can do about it later anyway.
As one doctor told me one time, if you can solve the problem, go for it ~ if you can't, move on and don't waste the energy, just learn to enjoy life. I know that's what my parents would want me to do so I concentrate on enjoying each day I've been given and remember them with a smile.
2007-06-17 09:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean 'are our loved ones' ashes really their ashes?' or 'are our loved ones' ashes really their property?'
If the first, then Yes they are; in the UK at least, there are strict regulations about cremation; only one body per cremation.
The ashes also contain the remains of their clothing as well, since the bodies are not stripped naked before going into the crematorium, but there are no other human remains in the urn that you receive.
If you mean the second, then No; the dead cannot own property, so even their mortal remains become the property of their next-of-kin.
2007-06-17 10:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have lost a lot of members of my family,
I am not sure about the ashes, so I just scatter them in the gardens of remembrances. There is one outside the crematorium. Because I believe the minute they die their spirit leaves their body. And goes to the spirit world and meets all their loved ones who have went before them. I don't believe they are laying in a grave. No way do I believe this. I have seen my loved ones in dreams and spoke to them, not just about the past but about the future.
2007-06-17 08:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look at the news [uk] the baby that was cremated with the old lady 10 year's ago. The baby should have been burried and the funeral home had forgotten to put the baby in his coffin so they laid him inbetween a old ladies legs and he was cremated with the old lady. 2 men were in court a couple of weeks ago. I don't think it is standard practice to cremate people together to save on fuel or anything it's just rumour.
2007-06-17 07:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by Spike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you sure hope so!It would depend on if it is a reputable funeral director. A friend of mine had her mom cremated & when she got home with a small container there was nothing in it! When she went back they put ashes in it but who is to say if they were ner mothers.
2007-06-17 10:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by foxfire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think so - although I do believe that sometimes these people throw the bodys on the ashes and save their Coffins. Its not make belief it does happen.
2007-06-17 07:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have thought of this myself and I don't think you'd ever know.I mean, do they scoop up what fits in the urn and throw the rest away ?Save it for a small guy ? Or what >>
2007-06-17 07:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id like to think so. but in reality probably not i dont think you will ever find out for sure (unless you work in a crem)
2007-06-17 07:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
60 minutes I believe ran apiece on it. No, it's a mix of a variety of human remains and some other bone particles as well..
2007-06-17 07:41:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋