my boyfriend and i have been dating for 1 year. one night he asked me to have sex with him. i wasnt sure.im not sure if i know him as wellas i think i do or i dont know if he has any diseases.
2007-06-17 07:33:16 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well first of all i think to solve the disease thing make sure he has tests jus to sure and if its possible you have one as well just to be playing safe. Ok you both have been together for a year but i think you both should discuss it thoroughly through and talk about what the outcomes could be (eg: you getting pregnant) and that if he would be able to cope and stand by you on that and make sure you're both honest about your feelings towards it because if he doesnt feel he can cope with the outcomes then i dont think its the right time to do it. But if he complies with it all then i suggest you both use protection such as condoms and that if you both feel ready for it but if you dont feel ready to do it then tell him that and he should respect that, you shouldnt feel pressured by anyone into sex if you dont want to :) hope this helps , ask if you need more advice.
2007-06-18 04:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by lovestruck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how old you both are and whether you feel ready, you can both go to a clinic and get checked out for sexually transmitted diseases if you've both been sexually active before and think that might be an issue. Make sure you use a condom as they protect against sexually transmitted diseases as well as pregnancy. If you don't feel ready then you aren't ready - don't do anything you may regret later.
2007-06-17 07:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by scubasmurf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't say how old you are but if it were my call - I'd be waiting until the last sound of the organ music in the church confirming I was 'his wife' not his girlfriend. My dear, if you have to 'ask' that question, in my opinion you are no where NEAR ready for a sexual commitment. If you even 'think' this person has a disease - you need to run, run far, far away. You sound very young and not ready to handle the emotional, mental and physical suitcases that are sutely to fill up once you make that step.
2007-06-17 07:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex not occur before:
1. You are ready to deal with a pregnancy, should it occur
2. You are ready to deal with an STD, should it occur
3. When you know how a woman can become pregnant (all the ways it can occur)
4. When you know what the various STDs are and how they are transmitted and how to help protect against them
5. When you are ready to insist your partner wear a condom (female) or insist that you wear one (male)
6. When you are on a reliable form of birth control and using it properly (female) or ensure that she is (male)
7. When you are ready to deal with any emotional issues that may come from being intimate with another person
Until you've got those things covered, you should not have sex.
2007-06-17 07:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to know a few things. You have to know that he likes you a lot, cares for you, desires you and feels a tender love for you. You need to know if he has had any contact with anyone who might have had an STD and if you decide to be with him that he use a condom. This sounds very matter of fact, but if two people care about each other, it almost comes out as a whisper, but it is clear--each person's care and welfare lies in this exchange of feelings.
2007-06-17 07:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
b4 u do nething ask him if he has ne STDs or AIDs or HIV or neting. if ur afraid he'll get mad, ask him in a joking way. but he rele souldnt get mad cuz its a good question.
only have sex when ur rede. if hes pushing u 2 do it then he doesnt rele care or luv u, he just wants sex. if thats the case dump him! hes not worth ur time.
but if hes not making u then just ask him 4 time to think about it. if he luvs u, he'll wait.
if uv been dating a year chances r u no him. dont start 2nd guessing ur relationship. uv been together 4 that long, u prob no him more than he nos himself. thats a good thing, not a creepy thing.
Well Good Luck
n Hope I Helped
``-Anna-``
2007-06-17 07:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might say simply wait till you're optimistic you LOVE him, now not simply lust. If you will have handiest been courting a couple of weeks however you consider such as you desire to head farther, I might persist with bjs for now, wait till you're optimistic you desire to be with him for many years and real care approximately him
2016-09-05 19:14:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
er... you know there´s alittle basic thing called trust? and another called condoms.. be careful with those..
and dont have sex until you feel confident enough.. and close enough to do it...
some people dont have sex cause they arent prepared for the consecuences that may cause.. just make sure you are... its not all about fun.. and there are some things you may consider.. specially LOVE!
2007-06-17 07:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you feel 100% good with it and you arent having doubts or second thoughts. And before you do, go get tested together. If he doesn't want to then don't sleep with him. Your first responsibility is to yourself and to take care fo yourself. Don't let him push you into it and know that you can change your mind at anytime.
2007-06-17 07:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is up to you how long you wait till you both have sex, it could have been a day, a week, a month, but as you both have been together a year, its totally up to you too, if you arent too sure if he has anything talk to him and explain that you both want to get checked out, then you could both go and get checked together so it shows how careful you both are! but to me if you are both happy and careful it doesnt matter how long you wait just as long as you are both ready and be careful
good luck
2007-06-17 07:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by laura p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋