The guy i am currently talking to is not divorced yet he has been seperated from his wife for almost 2 yrs. but hasn't filed for a divorce...
he has no kids with her are any ties to her they just have to get a divorce...
Should i continue talkin to him... he says he loves me and i love him too.. we haven't had sex or anything... he says he wants to marry me and start a family together since he has no kids.. but he's still married what should i do? please help should i leave him alone or what? answer quickly...
2007-06-17 07:18:14 · 24 answers · asked by nikkiblue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was going to suggest you stay clear untill you said he's been apart from her for two years, no kids. The divorce will come.
He says he loves you? If you feel he means it...give it a go. follow your heart.
Got a good feelin about this...go for it!
2007-06-17 07:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by newfy hank 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him why after two years of separation he has not filed for a divorce. He wants to marry you, hey that sounds wonderful but again has he made any steps to getting a divorce? Before you get further involved with this guy make sure he really wants to part from his wife.
2007-06-17 14:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.. he is still married and seperated or not that makes him an adulterer and sets you up to start out your relationship on the wrong foot.
If he is serious about divorce then wait and let him file and get divorced before you start dating him. Have some respect for yourself... you deserve a man who can be devoted to you, and until he is done with his unfinished business he isn't going to be able to do that.
2007-06-17 14:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you stay together and let things settle for a little bit, talk to him about divorce, so you can start a more complete mutual relationship. If you both love each other (meaning you both feel your "relationship" is perfect) just ask him to do it and if he cares enough for you he will ASAP. I think it is okay to date a "married man" in your situation, but you still need to get that divorce in! (divorce is a painful thing, give him some time as well to think things through, and maybe ask him if he wants to talk about it some more with you)
2007-06-17 14:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would let him know that the situation is uncomfortable and explain to him that since he's so sure of his love for you and his desire to be with you, it shouldn't be a problem to expedite the divorce process so he can marry you like he says he wants to.
If he doesn't cooperate with this, I would dip. I don't see why someone would hesitate to file divorce with someone they don't intend on being with any longer, specially when they're dishing out promises of commitment to other people.
2007-06-17 14:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by chelsie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! There is no reason why he isn't divorced after 2 years! There is obviously something else going on....do you know for sure that he is even seperated from her? Why has he said he hasn't got the divorce yet. Sounds pretty fishy to me!
2007-06-17 14:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not okay. This marriage is not over until the divorce papers are signed by a judge and the waiting period is over. Until then he is still married. Do NOT get involved. You will just end up getting hurt. Let someone else have a chance to win your heart.
2007-06-17 14:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sugar, you've got a HUGE red flag with him being separated 2 yrs but no divorce. I would do NOTHING with this guy until he's got divorce papers in his hand. That's just a fishy situation.
As for dating separated people in general, there's no cheating issue in those cirucmstances but couples do sometimes reunite and try again. Be careful about dating a separated person because chances are their spouse may have stronger emotional pull on them than you do, and you could be left being hurt.
2007-06-17 14:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a man while I was separated from my husband. My ex lived in another state, and it was way over except for the paperwork. A divorce is really expensive unless you get a government waiver and it is uncontested. I made it clear to my man that I was completely out of that situation except for some paperwork. You just have to ask yourself if he is stalling for a reason, or if neither one of them took any initiation to start the divorce process.
2007-06-17 14:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by sdgirljen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple if he were trying to get a divorce it would be different but he is not trying so tell him when he files for the divorce you can get more serious YOU should be important enough to get him to do that 1 simple thing if not dump him
2007-06-17 14:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by Big Deall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋