what else can i do and should do hes driven me insane and me and hubby trying to be strong stick by him?

Question

its all and way too much for me with roommate im ready to have myself admitted in psych unit tried all approaches called cops mental health and nothing anyone can do
as far as the roommate and his behavior attitude and all else
and also trying so hard to make it work with roommate living here but hopefully now his parents family will encourage him to smarten up before he burns all his bridges and convience him to get help help himself and change or he will lose only real friends he has made down here and ruin a good thing and nice place to live.

hes also pissing on floors and wiping human **** on walls and hes lazy and claims he likes living here and me and my husbands friends but all this and his behavior show different.

Answer 1

It sounds to me like your roommate has some mental health issues, and is unable to help himself. And there is not a lot you can do to "fix" this person, no matter how badly you would like to. You can make suggestions to him and his family, but that's about all you can do for them. THEY have to take the iniative.

But what about you? Why do you feel so responsible for this person? Why are you living with a person who has so many problems that it is affecting YOUR life so much? Why are you allowing this to go on and on and on? You sound like a kind person who is trying to help, but if it is affecting you so negatively, then its definitely time to stop. This person is going to end up bringing you and your life down, and that will not be good for him or you.

You have to put your foot down on this. You have to give an ultimatum that will change things NOW. Either he or his family gets him some help NOW, and you see changes NOW, or he cannot stay with you any longer. If this person is unable or unwilling to start working on themselves, then you are unable / unwilling to allow them to live with you any longer. At the very least, you are unable / unwilling to allow yourself to be a part of this persons problems. You are not being cruel, you are only trying to take care of yourself. If this person brings YOU down, you will NOT be able to take care of yourself, so its imperative that things CHANGE, and CHANGE NOW. It sounds like you've tried everything else and it hasn't worked. You didn't cause this problem and you're not going to be able to cure it. Start taking care of your own problems. I'm not saying this in a negative / selfish way. I am saying it for your own mental health and your survival. You're right - it IS way too much for you. Good luck.

Answer 2

Mercy, mercy, mercy. I agree, some of your input is somewhat un...understandable but the part where he's pissing on your floors is very clear. Get him out of your house. NO ONE should have to live under these conditions for any reason..He belongs in a mental institution until they can figure out the cause and treat it. You are not betraying this person, you are only betraying yourself by allowing it. It must STOP immediatly. How, call the local mental healt faciitly and the law. I am not positive but I am willing to bet that his behavior is a tad illegal. Check with police, they will know. If they will remove someone who is hitting you or breaking your things, why wouldnt they remove someone pissing on your floor. I really beleive t hey would. And again, this is the only way. He needs help, this will get it for him. You need help getting your home back. You have got to do what you got to do .. period. Good Luck, Lainey

Answer 3

That paragraph was a huge run-on sentence and was incomprehensible. Therefore, I won't be able to understand what your situation is, let alone answer your specific questions.

If you have health insurance, call it and ask for places where mental health services are covered under your policy.

If you don't, you should call a local mental health provider anyway and ask them where to find resources in your community for free mental health services. There are volunteer agencies, hotlines, etc. in virtually every area.

Answer 4

all you have to do is put your foot down, and kick the jerk OUT!!!!! i really dont see a problem, its your house, and you are chosing to let him continue to live with you, so u are enabeling him. you DO have a choise!!! if you choose to do nothing, than you are also to blame. good luck.