Do you call your Dad for Father's Day if you've been estranged for 20+ years?

Answer 1

As a father with a 25 year old daughter, I can tell you that he will be absolutely delighted to get a call from you. Whatever happened 20+ years ago can be gotten over, I suspect.

Call him and let us know how it goes.

Answer 2

That is a question only you can answer, do I try to repair the broken bride? Or do I leave things as they are. We all make mistakes, I know I have and have paid the price and would love to hear from my kids. Question to you if you had this chance to work things out, possibly and did not take it, and your father died next week how would you feel? And how would you feel a few years from now? 25 years ago I left for overseas, and never said goodbye to my dad because we had a disagreement, although we spoke on the phone I never did get to see him again, still bothers me that our last time together was an argument. We are all on this Earth once, one time only, and we all do things we regret, yet sometimes do not know how to correct those mistakes, without the input of those we have hurt, most times unintentionally. Make the call

Answer 3

I think you should ask yourself these questions, Has he called you for your birthday in 20+yrs? Does he even remember when your birthday is? Is he estranged because he wants to be? Does he have another family in which he cares and provides for? How will he react to you calling him?
The reason why I say to ask yourself these Q's is because you don't want to psych yourself up, get on the phone and ring him only to be rejected. That would be sooo hurtfull and maybe (if he's not a good man) it's not worth it. In the end he's the one who has missed out, you've grown and survived in this world all without him. Is he worth it?
Hope this helps, xx

Answer 4

Depends what the issue is. Usually I would suggest trying to resolve certain things and make peace with a parent. I was never estranged per se with my father, but we had issues for years and now we get along great and have put those behind us.

But I also have friends who try to make peace with a parent only to have the parent continue to act in a way that causes further pain to my friends, thus prolonging their pain. My suggestion in those cases is to lower your expectations and be the best person you can be, but know that the parent is who she/he is and likely won't change. Somehow you need to make peace with that reality.

If you think you can accomplish some measure of peace within yourself by attempting to communicate, then I say yes, make that step forward, be cautious and know that in the end you tried your best and don't take it personally when the other person can only be who they are and not what you want them to be.
Best of Luck.

Answer 5

Ten years ago, I called my father after being estranged for 30 years. I gave him my phone number and told him to call me sometimes. I'm still waiting, but I feel better knowing that I made the effort..

Answer 6

I would say yes. I have a daughter I have never seen and I would just love to hear from her and let her know that I love
even tho the Mother and I didn't get along for some godly
unknown reason. To tell you the truth go with your heart
and with your final knowing if your dad loves you. I can feel
you are curious and yet scared and there is nothing to fear
yet I know rejection hurts but hey you will know and do not take rejection personally it does not mean he rejected you but maybe rejected himself . I know it sounds complicated
so is life . Do call him .. Best of luck and wishes to you......

Answer 7

If you feel weird about the actual talking to him try to reach him another way.

Open up 1st by e mailing him or sending a card even if he gets it late.

In the message on either say that you miss him, you're thinking of him, and you want him to call you. It may seem weird at 1st, but this may save you if he doesn't want to talk to you. Be strong and you will always prosper.

Answer 8

It would seem very Hallmark and fake to call on Father's day. Wait a few days after June 17 and your call will bemore genuine.

Answer 9

I deff. think you should...especially if he doesn't call you on your birthday or anything just to show that you still care and that your the bigger adult to make an effort...so yeah call you dad wish him a happy fathers day...and goodluck.

Answer 10

Yes, call him. My father's sister didn't want to talk to her father even when he always wanted to see her, then her father suddenly die and she's been regretting not getting in touch with him when she could.