This morning I got up and got my 2 children and 3 step children ready for church. My Boyfriends son was giving me a heard time about anything I would ask him to do. I went in the room and ask his father to assist me with his son he screamead and yelled at me like a maniac because I woke him up, then he told me to pack my sh*t and get out. Well I went ahead and went to church with the kids and when I got home he tried to hug me Im sorry but remember he kicked me out so we faught and faught and faught now he blames all of it on me and I guess we are finished after 4 years, I havent been on my own in 4 years and he is kicking me out knowing I have only a part time job (because I have to take care of his kids and mine during the day so I cant work full time) I have no where to go with my 2 children and he dont care. What should I do Im very scraed all advice welcomed.
2007-06-17 07:02:09 · 17 answers · asked by shorty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Im sorry "devistating" is what I ment i cant even spell today.
2007-06-17 07:10:07 · update #1
Are you in a dangerous situation? Meaning, is he violent? If he is, get out with your kids and go to a friend, relative, or even a shelter. You have to protect you and your kids. If he's not violent, then start to look at the legalities. Do you own your home or are you renting? If you own, it's your house also and you have rights. If you rent/lease, are you on the contract? If so, you have rights here as well. Also, check to see if you're not on the contract, you still might have residency rights that you have to investigate. Good luck and God bless.
2007-06-17 07:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by CUrias 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who is going through exactly what you may be going through next year. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now. I met him when I was only 15 and now I'm starting my senior year of high school and he's going out of state 6 hours away to college in New York. It's never been easy for us because we leave about 45 minutes away from eachother as it is, but if your love is strong enough it will work. Most people can't handle long distance relationships and that's understandable because when you see so little of someone it's almost as if you aren't together at all. If you really love this guy, trust that he feels the same about you. Allow yourself to be a little vulnerable, it's better to take a chance at getting hurt than to lose out on what could be the best moments of your life. If he doesn't stay with you, then he was never worth it to begin with. There is a guy out there who will, maybe it's him, maybe it's not. Life is a gamble.
2016-05-17 23:17:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He kinda sounds like a dick and his kids dont sound very respectful you are raising your kids right in church and satan is trying to stop your family from being happy. If his kids dont want to go to church leave them with their father, after he has to take responsibility for his own kids in the morning while you go to church then he will realize either he wakes up for his kids or church, he obviously doesnt want to do anything for you or himself so take care of yourself and your own kids and remember your kids may be feeling the same way you are and going through hell with all of them just like you.
2007-06-17 07:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by deedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't go to your parents house? A friends house? This is why you should never have kids with a boyfriend. Or until you get married. Now you have 2 kids with this abusive man. Well, see if you can start working full time...get your mother to babysit (for now) until you can get on your feet. You don't need a man to make you whole. It sounds like he used you for a babysitter anyway. Move on girl..you can do better by yourself.
2007-06-17 07:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
READ THIS PLEASE!!! Woman do not have to feel like victims in a relationship, never ever. Hit him where it hurts, technically even though you two aren't married you're basically common law. You can get everything you could from a marriage divorce, because of the length of time with each other, everything he owns is community property (half is yours). You are not 'stuck' consult a lawyer and get rid of this dirt bag, empower yourself and take full control.
by the way, he'll have to pay for your lawyers fee's and court costs, nothing hurts more then getting hit in the pocket book.
REMEMBER you are in control and there are laws to prevent this kind of victimization.
2007-06-17 07:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by Experienced Male named Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i walked out with my 2 kids after 13yrs of similar abuse as you.i went to a womans shelter,it was ####### the kids we were homeless and penniless,but 3yrs down the line im happy and the main thing is my kids are happy, not listening or seeing any abuse.ive a home now and a job and most of all 2 happy kids.its scarey but it will be worth it ,trust me.let him bring his own kids up then we will soon see a change in attitude on his behalf
2007-06-17 07:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by derrycat69er 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you do, remember that God is there for you. Sometimes we get ourselves in situations that are unhealthy. Sometimes we do not see these situations for what they are until much later.
Speak with the leaders of your church and see if there are any programs that would assist you. You would be surprised how often people will help. You just need to tell them.
2007-06-17 07:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by Am a dad too 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, for him to suddenly kick you out like that, its seems there is conflict. Some people may make them selves believe they are perfect for eachother, and maybe you two aren't. I know how it is when people follow how their kid feels. Thats the thing with commitment, especially if you are being re-married, because when you marry someone, and they have kids, you have to think of that. When you marry someone who already has kids, you have to think that your going to have to live with this mans children, and if you dont get along with them tough luck. Good Luck!
2007-06-17 07:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand you not wanting a hug after he kicked you out. But my guess was that the hug was his attempt at an apology and instead of accepting it and discussing the situation, you decided to argue with him... what do you want?
Take him for a walk away from the house and kids, get a sitter and talk to him.
2007-06-17 07:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, first off take a deep breath. Do you have and friends or family you can call? You said you went to church, if I were you I would contact my priest or preacher they should be able to help guide you.
2007-06-17 07:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋