i have a girlfriend of 4 years she has 2 kids and i have 2 kids but her family takes hers and does things with them and lets them spend the night with them all the time but not mine i fill this is wrong do you think im wrong to fill this way what should i do
2007-06-17 06:59:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Her family is not obligated to take your kids. They are not their grandchildren. I know, it doesn't seem fair, but that is how it is. Not all people want to blend the families together so completely. It's not fair, but it's not wrong of them either.
When the other kids are off with her family take that time to do something special with your kids. They will appreciate that special time with you and it will help make their relationship with your girlfriend stronger as well.
2007-06-17 07:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong but sad. Her family just see her 2 kids as part of their family because you two are just "together", it's unfair for your children because I imagine the six of you feel like a family after 4 years of living together.
Talk to your girlfriend how you feel, how this could be affecting your 2 kids, since you two see then as siblings you would like her relatives to make no distinctions when some of then go out.
Seeing what's happening doesn't make you want to take the next step to put solid roots to this family, how much are you committed to your girlfriend? Things are going to be completely different when you and your girlfriend decide on your situation.
2007-06-17 14:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lulu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong for her family to enable her to be an irresponsible parent, if that's what you mean. Of course it is good that they care about the kids.
If you have been going with her for 4 years, where is this relationship going? Both of you should be focusing mainly on your children. Are you planning to marry? Do the kids get along? Do your kids love you, and yours her? Or are you just passing the time? Think about what the children need.
2007-06-17 14:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why do you have girlfriend who is marred to some one else and have 2 kids. That is not right at all if she having good time with her own family why are you joules of her. You can do the same thing with your own family too. If she can do it you can do it too. It was your choice going out woman with her. When she already had family how can she give you time. I think you should just move on with your life with your family. And forget about her, It's seem like she don't care about you she is having good time with her own family.
2007-06-17 14:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by Ashisweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes your girlfriend not your wife. I see no reason why they should take your kids. If you were married my answer would be different.
2007-06-17 14:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋