People ask this question all the time, I know, but please give me a real advice?

Question

He broke my heart, and replaced me with another girl, when I was so good to him. Even the way he broke up was bad.


Anyway all I'm wishing is to make him regret (not get revenge) I just want him to see how stupid he was for doing that


how do I do it in a mature way?

he broke up because of long distance, but he said he broke up because I was gonna cheat (which never happened, just accusations) and was very rude and mean to me.

Answer 1

Better yourself. That is always the best revenge.

Answer 2

It's very hard to feel rejected. Part of you (or any person feeling rejected) wants to blame the other person, but there's almost always the nagging doubt, "Did I do something to provoke the rejection?"

So, you've got to ask yourself in your heart of hearts what is it you really want: (1) For him to see how stupid he was, or (2) For you to understand why he busted up with you in such a "bad" way.

Wanting to make him "see how stupid he is" is a natural reaction. But it only works out the way you imagine it if EVERY SINGLE LITTLE THING plays out in reality as you imagine it in your mind. Getting into his orbit now is risky, because while we can imagine how we'd like things to play out, reality isn't always so kind.

From a 61-year old grandfather, my advice is to give it a bit of time. The moment will likely come in a couple of weeks or months when you run into one another.

By that time, you may have figured out that he's not worth the trouble. If you still think he's worth the trouble, the fact that you waited a little before asking him anything (1) shows that you're a cool, mature young woman; and (2) will minimize the chance that you'll say or do something that you might later regret.

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

You do it in a mature way by accepting what happened and moving on. You cannot make someone regret something they wanted to do. It may hurt that he broke up with you, but he did it because he didn't want to be with you...trying to "make" him regret it will likely just confirm to him that he made the correct choice.

Move on...you know what they say...living well is the best revenge.

Answer 4

I think the excuse he gave you for breaking up, was just that, an excuse to break up with you. Maybe he didn't want to tell you he doesn't love you anymore. That's the main reason people break up, because love dies, the rest are just words.

Dont waste your time trying to get back at him. How to make him realise his mistake nobody knows. Just try to move on, the best way to get even at a man is ignoring him. You'll do it so much you'll soon stop caring for him.
Dont find another boyfriend, you will just get someone else involve, perhaps even hurt that person. With time, you will stop loving him.
Just think that is his lost and that you deserve better, dont waste more time, than what you already have.

Answer 5

Find another good man, have a family with him, and live a very happy and satisfying life. And if that is not going to make the other guy jealous and regretful about what he did, then nothing else will.

If you try to do something negative to make this guy regret it. Then you will only show how much he has hurt you. And instead of regretting what he did, perhaps he will pity you.

Answer 6

Just try to move on. Try not to think about him, go out and meet new guys and have fun. If he knows that you have moved on and are dating other people that is the best way to let him know you are mature and he could possibly regret letting you go. It won't help you to keep thinking about him, he isn't worth your time if he broke up with you in a bad way. You definitely won't make him regret it if you show up at his place trying to make him regret it, or going around where he hangs out.

Answer 7

Regardless of his age, I suspect the reason he handled the break-up rudely was that he lacks the social skills to behave more appropriately. The mature thing for you to do here is to move on. Forget about him. Forget about his bad behavior. Forget about making him regret. That won't help either of you. Just live your life and enjoy it.

Oh yeah, there's that saying, "Living well is the best revenge." That should do.

Answer 8

He was not the one for you, he will only stay a short time with his new girlfriend. He a guy that doesn't take love serious. He doesn't realize that you are hurted very bad from the relationship. To have some peace in your life. Talk to him and tell him how you feel, and go on with your life. He not worth it. He will see in the long run, what he lost. Good Luck go on.

Answer 9

By showing him you have moved on with your life and are a much better person for it .. you could invest in a new hairdo and a new wardrobe .. make sure you are seen in the same social circles as his mates and ensure you are having a bloody good time oh and when you see him look drop dead sexy and take a minute to acknowledge him if he greets you instant ego killer and do it in a detatched way .. like you were saying hi to your mailman

Answer 10

Don't do anything with this guy - he has already taken up too much of your time and energy. Try looking at your life in a more positive way - without reference to him.

If this guy is as selfish and mean as you say, nothing you do can change him anyway. Just be glad you aren't with him anymore.

Take a deep breath and then move on.

Answer 11

That's life hun. And the best way to make him regret his mistake is to 1. Move on , be happy about the break up, 2. Take care of yourself by maintaining a good weight, do your make-up (look beautiful), take up new hobbies, mingle with your friends....
You can not change him or make him love you? The only person you can control is yourself....Be HAPPY ........